i'm a 19yr old girl, i have my own flat that i pay for myself and work and earn my own money, but he still treats me like i'm 6. he still hits me when i've not "been behaving", and he's just rung me at work to tell me i'm not allowed out tonight because i've gotta tidy MY flat, its mine its got nothing to do with him! but i'm also scared to death of him, how can i make him change?
2007-08-03 02:07:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You CAN'T make him change. But you can change how you react to him. You are acting like a child by letting him treat you this way. If he hits you, he is breaking the law. It is assault and battery. You should threaten to call the cops on him if he does it again, and follow through if he does it. And if you do not want to tidy up his flat, then don't. Ignore him. Take control of your life and act like the adult you are. And if you need to stay away from him, then do it. In fact, if you are scared of him, then you SHOULD stay away from him. He will continue to treat you like a child so long as you allow him to. The same goes for boyfriends and husbands. Don't stay with a guy that treats you badly. Good luck!
p.s. If you are incapable of breaking this chain of events, then I highly recommend that you get some professional counseling.
2007-08-03 02:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Option 1) If you've got big boobs, just flash them at him and say "Do I LOOK like a LITTLE girl?"
Option 2) Next time he hits you, just hook him back as hard as you can with your fists, and tell him "If I was still a little girl, would I be able to hit like this?" (or words that effect.... though only try this if you're sure you can take him down)
Option 3) Take out a restraining order on him until further notice, and it MAY make him realise his little girl is old enough to take legal action against him.
Option 4) Move to a different flat (possibly in a different town) without telling him...... change phone number, etc.
2007-08-03 03:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw a tantrum, only kidding tell him you will cut him out of you're life"IF"he persists, make a stand now or he will always
do the same , imagine if you were to have someone move in
with you , state the rules of the game clearly for him, and let him know how you feel.
He may be fretting for his little girl but seems to have gone and got on with her life . HE SHOULD BE PROUD OF YOU .
also get around to look at the answers might do some good !!
good luck.
2007-08-03 02:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is a control freak and an abuser. Striking another adult is called assault and if he does it again, file a complaint with the police.
A dad who had a proper perspective would be proud of your accomplishments and independence!
You are allowing your father to treat you like a child if you don't set boundaries for his relationship with you.
(You didn't say how he knew your flat needed cleaning up. If you live on his property and rent from him, you will do yourself a favor by moving.)
Good luck and congratulations on your independence!
2007-08-03 02:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dad's are protective, but some are just over-protective! Yours is the over-protective time no doubt! But just tell him face-to-face, actually call him. Say this: 'Dad, I'm 19 eyars old, I would appreciate it if you'd stop treating me like a child!' and if he doesn't understand this, talk to your mum, other members of family. It's not healthy to be scared of your dad. Confront him and good luck!
He can't get violent with you anyhow.
2007-08-03 04:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face up to it. You will always be his child no matter how old you get. And also remember that if you have left that means they are getting old and some hold onto you because it helps them stay young. I doubt things will change too much but in time when you have a husband and your kids thing might change
2007-08-03 03:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by felford2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my father tried that with me, I wouldn't say anything over the phone. I'd hang up, get in my car, go to his house and walk in without knocking. He'd find out my temper is on an all time high and I'm not playing around about this and we'll just find out who's scared of who.
2007-08-03 02:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your Dad has a problem with letting go of his little girl, major problem with control, and sounds abusive. He needs to learn that he can't treat you this way, and get treatment himself. If you are really scared why don't you get a restraining order on him, talk to some one in law enforcement for advise and help. Get help before it gets worse. Good Luck, and God Bless!
2007-08-07 01:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe he is treating you like this. He has absolutely no right and you must get the police to intervene. What he is doing is wrong and he must be stopped.
You are an adult and you have rights. I guess he has a key to your flat to be able to say its untidy...I realise he scares you but he MUST BE STOPPED
2007-08-03 02:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even me, my dad is treating like im a baby... Here's the way, first, tell him that your no baby , second, change the way u act don't act like a child act like an adult so that he realize that ur no baby!!! and yah!!! Ur not a girl... Ur a lady now!!!
2007-08-03 02:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋