how come when your severly depressed, everyone else seems to be beaming happy, with huge grins..dont you think

Question

this is sick that people can do this? what a head game to play, where does it come from?
your in the deepest darkest depression, trying desperatly to get through each day, trying desperatly not to give up, and working to get a life and attain your goals and ambitions...
while everybody else is dancing merrily along, happy go lucky, having these huge ridiculous grins....like the yahoo avatars do, when there expressions are grinning...with them wide eyes and weird grins, that all look the same...
while im fighting a serious long term disorder, fighting to hang on to achieve a life and happiness....wjile everybody is happy, rosey, dancing in the gardens...& any problems they do have are minor compared to the intensity i have to face daily...i grit my teeth with rage bout this,it seems so unfair.....
my life has been horrific and filled with trauma, im a 30 year old bpd sufferer...ive been denied what i see other poeople have...relashionships, friendships, happiness a life,a job.
can

anyone understand my bitterness and misery?

Answer 1

If they are flaunting their happiness and and success in your face, knowing what you are going through, that constitutes a severe lack of charity.

Unfortunately, there are so many people like that out there that have nothing better to do than socially murder others they consider losers, not realizing that such a stance is a great defect and not a strength - it is only the kind and helpful who stands tall and are to be emulated - it takes no strength or character to pick on a weak person, but it takes tremendous strength to do the right thing, no matter what, and the right thing is treating the other person humanly, only a** h**** look upon other people only as prey.




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Answer 2

I felt that way before I was put on the right medicine through several trials. I know I still will be vulnerable to stress, but accept that this is the brain chemistry I was given. I think you should check on some statistics. I think that 1 in 10 people have an anxiety disorder...and so on. Depression is shared by so many people in society these days. You are not alone and everyone you think that is happy, rosey, and has a wonderful life, probably doesnt. Everyone has thier problems with mental health. Did you ever stop and think what is normal? There are thousands of executives on medicine. Take it easy on yourself.

Answer 3

Have the strikes affected your income ? or justyour viewing pleasure?. Either way, If your livelihood is affected due to income, I understand. If it's your viewing pleasure then you may reconsider whether or not you are actually a 'clinically' depressed person and discuss with your doctor. The idea of a Doctor prescribing depressants is ludicrous. He may in fact recommend that you go out more and perhaps take up a sport, bowling, football, soccer, basketball, rollerblading, join a group & go walking, hiking, or take up a course in mechanics, woodworking, metalurgy...Perhaps you are not really depressed - just a little teed off maybe a lot teed off. This will pass quickly when the strike ends, but you only have one life to live and do you really want it to between you and whatever TV shows happen to be on the air?

Answer 4

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I went through something similar.. not exactly the same as you and definitely not on the same scale. One cannot help how they feel.

I had difficulty getting pregnant; my husband and I tried for a long time. I did get pregnant had my daughter then 7 months later was pregnant again (unexpectedly).

(This was a fraternal twin pregnancy.) By the time I went in for my 8 week ultrasound and follow-up, there was one fetus with a strong heartbeat. About 8 weeks later, I had some spotting. I went in for an emergency Ultrasound to find no fetus. It had completely disappeared.

Doc calls it "Vanishing Twin Syndrome". Well, everyone around me was either very pregnant, or becoming pregnant and very happy. I went for a long, long time saddened by this and angry, bitter, resentful of friends that were having babies and co-workers etc. I guess because it was something that I deeply wanted and I was jealous of those around me.

I just focused on what was good in my life and it made me that much closer to my daughter. I remember thinking that we have a beautiful girl at home; a perfect baby... a whole baby..
Her and I now share a bond that runs far deeper than I could have ever imagined. As well, my husband and I are much closer for it too.

Answer 5

WOW! i've fealt like that before, well maybe not exactly.

I've many times wondered why everyone has it all and why everything and everyone seems against me and so unfair. I know i smile sometimes even when i'm over-all unhappy, but it's not as a show, but a temporary happiness which perhaps maybe makes me forget the rest of my life for that momment.

Sometimes it makes me feel good when someone is willing to talk to me, and i smile, but it doesn't last and i know i'll be back with myself and noone caring about me right afterwards.

Sometimes there's noone at all to make me smile. that doesn't stop other people from smiling, never will, they don't feel my pain, they don't care. Why don't people care about other people's trouble? Why do the greedy people who care only about themselves have so much happiness? and why can't someone who has so much desire to care and love and give, get nothing at all but pain?

I hate the world the way it is. i hate society. you have every right to be mad at people being happy and allowing you to be depressed. Why should they care about their own feelings and not yours?

I wish their was a simple solution or soemthing i could write. I could just tell everyone in the world not to overlook the people not smiling ;p

Well i hope you start smiling soon, you can send me a message if you feel like it ;p

Answer 6

If you can see others who are happy when you are sad, then you are looking for happiness. For when I am down, it feels like the world is crying. It usually happens during a rain. Now if you see people dancing in a garden, better look for a camera. You may be in a movie. Lighten up, life is bad but it can get worse. If you don't think so, stick around for a little while.

Answer 7

Yes I do know what you mean, put it this way, I was told I'd never have children at the age of 23, my brother's 16 year old g/f was heavily pregnant and would sit with the most heinous grin on her face the whole time!
You have to realize like I did that it is us with the problem we perceive things differently to everyone else because of our state of mind, tried suicide!
Felt useless, but went to the doctors they gave me medication , no shame in it therapist as well although I personally didn't like him, so changed to someone else.
Hope you have tried these but like I found with my sister in law It's not her fault for how I was feeling or the situation I was in!

Answer 8

i think danielle makes quite a fair point. feeling anger and bitterness towards someone because they feel happy, isn't going to help you to be happy yourself, it may just appear more intense than it actually is because its something you desire yourself.
people see me as one of the happiest people they know, though my closest friends and my family know that i suffer everyday from depression, anxiety, freak moods, paranoia, i can barely look them in the eye sometimes, even when things are fine.
yet when i leave the house each day i try to hold my head up and i try to smile at everyone that goes past, not a big bolshy grinny thing, but i try to give everyone i pass a nice smile, sometimes it only takes that one person to smile back to make me feel that bit happier with myself. =)

Answer 9

I know how you feel honestly, cause I've got so many mental health issues it'd take the page to fill. Depression is just one of them. I can assure you that those people who are grinning around you are not necessarily as happy as you think. Your mind thinks they are happy cause you're not, but they have their problems too...a grin can hide a lot you know.....

Answer 10

While I can relate to you, I just have to say something first. So because you are depressed and had a horrible life everyone is supposed to change how they feel just so they dont piss you off? I thought everyone looked so happy and i wished I had one of their lives, but I never got angry because they didnt stop smiling when they were around me. That would be selfish. I am sorry that you had a bad life. I did too. But it is not fair to hate on people just because you arent happy. How about instead of focusing on how much you hate them for smiling, you focus on yourself and getting to where they are?