when you are over seas. i'm nt in the military or anything. I'm just over here for work, i told them that i was depressed and wish to join my family back home but they (my boss) want allow me to go home. All he has to do is sign the papers to let me go back home but he won't. he keeps saying stick in there, you will be ok. I have told him that i'm seriously depressed and the rest of the ppl over me keeps ignoring what i am saying. I cant just get on a plane and go home because i am stuck on this base without transportation.
2007-08-03 00:37:17 · 9 answers · asked by rainbow stud 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
this is a alcohol free country. we can't get any over here
2007-08-03 00:44:00 · update #1
i don't drink alcohol i was just saying that cause i know most ppl are going to say go get drunk
2007-08-03 01:18:49 · update #2
no i can't lose my job if they send me home. my job is really sationed at home i was just sent here to help out and now they want let me go back home.
2007-08-03 01:21:50 · update #3
I'm sorry you feel so bad and possibly homesick too.
Try to get a date when you will be able to go home, it'll give you something to look forward to, even if it is a long way off.
Email home and ask as many as you can to get a web camera, you can then see hem when they talk to you.
Don't dwell on going home, - I was abroad for a while and came home after 2 years to be with family and friends, but they had all got on with their lives and it wasn't all I imagined it to be. Looking back, I could have stayed 2 or 3 more years and gained more experience.
Eating loads of fruit raises your energy, makes you feel better, as does exercise, even skipping. You just need to do something for 20 minutes a day to get more oxygen into your blood stream.
The best way to change is to change you 'mind' decide not to think negative. Replace your thoughts with positive ones about being where you are (hard, I know, but worth trying) Say nice things to yourself, like instead of 'oh no, another boring day' say, 'what a nice day' these little things help to change your mind set. It may seem silly, but it works.
Allow yourself a little time to miss your friends and family, but don't linger on it, limit it to 10 or 15 minutes.
I expect you are missing the warmth of your family, and haven't found something to replace it. There will be others around who will feel the same.
Take up all invites to places - never let an opportunity pass- you never know where it may lead you to, and smile, smile, SMILE - make yourself smile, even when you don't want to, ESPECIALLY when you don't want to. (it releases 'happy hormones', even when you don't feel happy!)
Good luck
2007-08-03 01:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by sheila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you see a counselor and discuss how you are feeling. That way, the counselor can submit papers and you should have an easier time getting more help or if necessary, a ticket home.
I think you need to figure out why you are depressed, get to the root of it and learn better coping skills. Often that is a big part of the problem.
2007-08-03 07:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol
2007-08-03 07:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by mazuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are not only home sick but are also using your knowledge wrongly; i.e; instead of finding ways and means to treat yourself for homesickness you are knowing yourself as depressed and thus trying to find ways and means to get out of state of depression.
I am also beginning to feel that perhaps you are feeling home sick or depressed only for missing alcohol.
What ever it may be; I think that you are home sick; and the best way to get out of home sickness is to try to not only extract joy from the feelings, thoughts and actions which you feel, and think about home but also to use that spirit of joy to form new associations, relationships, and beginnings with fellow beings; and let them know that only the spirits of joy, love and compassion are the forces which drive your mind to feel, think, and act.
Also try to routinely get up early before sunrise, and in the loneliness of the dawn, try to be one with the nature; through exercises etc.
2007-08-03 08:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by ts@greenpastures 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a doctor: get a certificate: take it in: demand to go home, or you will sue not only the company, but him personally, for everything he has got! See depression treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 2.
2007-08-03 09:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more assertive INSIST he signs the papers else you'll be useless in a short time. You need meds and psycho help asap else you'll just get worse and loose your job anyway. Perhaps you should put it to him like that!! Good Luck.
2007-08-03 08:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-03 12:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him when he can allow you to go home, don't allow depression to bring you down, look forward to see them, try using 3g video calling for the moment, thats if any of your family members have that. keep smiling d:) i'm sure u would be seeing them soon, and they'l feel proud of you when they do.
2007-08-03 07:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by pink happiness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it the Alcohol are thr Family you miss?
2007-08-03 07:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by Rather be dead than red... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋