going to bed as I am tired of sleeping alone. Now, here is where it gets odd. I don't want to be in a relationship-as in, I don't want to be sharing my life with someone or even having sex with them. I just want to sleep beside someone-cuddle, hold each other, just be there and then that's all. They go away in the morning and only return when it is time to go to sleep. Does anyone else feel this way? It has really become a problem for me because I can't sleep.
2007-08-02 22:58:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Nope! That's not weird at all. I can relate with that feeling
of wanting to cuddle and not have sex. But I can sleep alone with no problem. I love hugs and cuddling. Sad part is you can't sleep. I know that pillows cannot take the place of another warm body, but have you tried the nursing pillow? I think it's the C shaped one? Or a body pillow? It may help to give you the feeling of being cuddled. Play a soothing CD, grab your biggest pillow and have some lavender scented sachets around to help you relax and sleep. Hope that helps!
2007-08-02 23:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Shmooks 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel nearly the same, so I understand how you feel. I always have it after going on a vacation, when I share rooms with others. Try to think of it this way:
What is the worst that could happen? Chances are that you won't get robbed, so what could happen if nobody else was in the room with you?
Also, relax. no need to get uptight about it... and also, try not to think about it too much. The more you think about it, the more it will bother you. Remember, this dilemma exists solely in your mind, so if you don't think about it, eventually it will just disappear, and you'll be able to sleep just fine.
In order to help you fall asleep (hope this helps):
Drink milk prior to bed time (helps relaxation).
Don't eat within an hour or two of your bed time, particularly chocolate, which has caffeine.
Don't do any heavy work-outs within an hour or two of your bedtime, but get plenty of exercise during the day, as it will help wear you out for bedtime.
If you can't sleep, just read or watch TV, and it will take your mind off of not being able to sleep.
Please, refrain from resorting to sleeping pills!
Good luck!
2007-08-03 00:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by SMS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really normal, common feeling we all have, especially when you go through a break up or divorce.
I began to sleep in the center of the bed and enjoy not having someone next to me to wake me. It really is all about not feeling sorry for yourself and understanding that you can love yourself and build up your self-esteem.
When you feel this urge to cuddle, maybe bringing a soft teddy bear to bed to hold may help. It works for children and really you would be comforting the little girl inside you that wants to be held.
2007-08-02 23:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally felt that way! When I was single again I missed just havng a warm body next to me! I just wanted someone to cuddle with. To my disappointment even when I would tell a guy thats all I wanted and all they would get, they would agree, and then try to make the moves later like I had changed my mind because they were so irresistable. I would tell guys I would go hang out with that I didnt want a relationship and that I WAS NOT THIER GIRLFRIEND, and eventually they would start to call mr their girlfriend, Again like I had changed my mind because he is so sensitive and irresistable! So good luck. They have these weird pillows out there now that are shaped like a body. I wish I had had one of these. It would have saved me alot of annoyances and frustration!
2007-08-02 23:10:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I often feel that same way. Not wanting to be in a relationship, or having sex, but just to want to feel another warm body, or listen to their breathing.
Maybe it's a deep-seeded desire for security? If you figure anything out, let me know.
2007-08-02 23:10:08 · answer #5 · answered by kianvis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop taking random people into your bed. It seems you are being a bit unrealistic. Chill. You can't force good relationships to happen.
2007-08-02 23:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Teacher 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What about a Cat!
I can relate,its so weird right
2007-08-02 23:05:15 · answer #7 · answered by holla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried holding a pillow or a large stuffed animal?
2007-08-02 23:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋