When it comes to me dating someone i want them to be perfect. i always find something about them i dont like and make up reasons for why i cant date them i am so lonely and at the rate im going im afraid ill be single for life. i want a guy who is attractive, smart, fun, and he has to respect where is a good place to meet this guy? And why is it so hard for me to find someone like this
2007-08-02 22:11:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Dont look for a particular guy.
If you are happy with some one then that set he is your lucky one.keep patience you will get him very soon.believe me.
2007-08-02 22:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no males that fall into that category!
The fact is, you need to not lower your standards, you need to get more realistic ones that have some depth. For example, not all attractive guys are worth your time, in fact, I have found they can be real dogs always looking for the next female to bed.
What you should do is just relax, be yourself, do what interests you and make a good life for yourself. Then, if it's meant to be (not written in stone we all have to be coupled), it will happen.
When we get desperate, watch out! That's when the real scum bags circle you waiting to pounce. Being single is great, you don't have to compromise with anyone, don't have to worry if they're cheating on you, etc., etc. Enjoy this time...believe me, someday you will look back and wish you had.
2007-08-03 07:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem Jamie D is that they don't make perfect people . They make good people and in some cases they make very good people but not perfect people.
If you seek perfection in another human you will always be frustrated and disappointed and very possibly not see a person who might be very good for you.
The paradox of romance is that it's an idealized fantasy that requires a well grounded sense of reality in order grow and thrive and continue to be an idealized fantasy.
Part of that grounding process is an acceptance of another persons flaws. Just as you would reasonably expect that person to accept your own flaws
If you lower expectations from "perfect "to "very good " I know that you will significantly increase the number of good dates you have.
Good luck
2007-08-03 06:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as a perfect love in this world, simply because people are not perfect. No one is. You can spent your entire life searching for that perfect guy and you'll never find one simply because there's none.
2007-08-03 06:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Hornet One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that there's such a thing as being single too long or too short. its a personal preference. i do believe that everyone has their own personal expectations.
i don't think you should pressure yourself on finding the one.
If you do, its like you're selling yourself short. Very often, if its meant to be then it is while you're at it, have fun socialising, meeting different people.
2007-08-03 05:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by experimentgw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its not the best time for you to be in a relationship. I can strongly relate right now. I've been feeling alone and started to realize that dating is not the most important area for me to be concerned with. Sometimes you just have to put your emotions aside to better serve yourself.
2007-08-03 05:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm a guy and seems i am having same prob, after getting with a friend, i then find something abt them i don't like of couse it makes me relax to go further. just hope u'll find one and that will be the mr. right. you can meet with the mr. right any where. don't think there is a particular place to see or meet the mr. right.
2007-08-03 05:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by Morh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, what are you so scared of? Commitment? The unknown? The risk?
2007-08-03 05:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋