My boyfriends got ADD. He hasnt been taking his meds. And his scaring me. Last night we were driving... he started to increase his speed slowly slowly... i told him to slow down.. instead he started to get faster and kept saying "you want me to slow down, you want me to slow down"... we were literally going 200 in a 60 zone.
Iv been with him for 2 years and his never done anything like that before.
He put my life and his life at danger.
His my frist true love. I lost my virginity to him.
But after last night... I cant believe that even happened
Is that enough to break it off with him?
I havtn talked to him since last night. Iv been ignoring all his calls.
IM SO CONFUSED
2007-08-02 21:59:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he loves me, he wouldnt of done that? Was that the ADD taking over? Was that the real him? Im so scared. Iv never been so scared in my life.
2007-08-02 22:00:15 · update #1
that is hard, but if he has never done anything like this before it sounds to me like it is because of him not taking him meds. tell him that if he really loves you and wants to stay with you, then he needs to start being responsible. he could have killed you, him and others. he needs to think what is important to him. good luck!
2007-08-02 22:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't taking his meds and he HAS TO HAVE THEM, then you definitely have a problem. Though I do think you should talk to him about it. Maybe you can get him back on them. That's scary that he would put your life in danger like that. Nothing is worth that. I wouldn't stay in a relationship where I felt threatened. But find out the facts and I hope you can keep yourself safe. Make sure to tell your parents what's going on if your underage. Your in a situation where you must be very cautious. Call 911 if you have an emergency but please don't put yourself in any other situations with him. He sounds like he may become a loose canon. I don't know the details so I can't say for sure, but definitely slowing things down and finding out what's really going on would be good ideas. Make sure he knows how you feel and how scared you were about what happened. And if he doesn't get it or makes up too many excuses, then it's probably time to find a new boyfriend. Good Luck and God Bless You, your in my prayers.
2007-08-02 22:09:18 · answer #2 · answered by Dillon G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was dangerous. He either lost his concern for your safety as well as his own, or he lost control of his behavior, or both. I think it is very reasonable and healthy for you to be afraid of his behavior. Regardless of having ADD he should be better able to control his behavior than that, even if he is not taking medication. I would suggest that you not get in any car with him (unless a parent is driving) and that you also not spend time alone with him. He is scary. I think it is enough to break off the relationship. Keep yourself safe. You deserve it.
2007-08-02 22:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by treebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how long you have been together, how determined you are to stay together, etc., your options will differ. What is clear is that this young man needs some professional help before you put yourself at risk again. You need to be having conversations with him about him seeking help before you can make a thoughtful decision about the outcome of your relationship. Good luck.
2007-08-02 22:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by I Hate Migraines 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but you've already said that he hasnt taken his medication!
is this what its all about or are you trying to look for an excuse to get rid of him...
taking into account his ADD, dont you think your acting a little harsh if you want to end it, its because he didnt take his medication for his illness. its up to you aswell as family to make sure he carrys on taking it!
YES he did put you in danger and explain to him that you felt totally scared for your life and you dont want to see him for a few days! that should be enough for him to realise that he could have lost you!
ask him how he would have felt had he killed you? (he didnt kill you though) ... and you want to make sure he starts taking his medication again, tell him he cant afford not to take it, because if he continues like this he will lose you for good!
good luck
2007-08-02 22:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by Rєвє¢¢α 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure it was because he not taking his meds. You should tell him that he has to take his meds, its for his own good and tell him that you you are only asking him to take his meds because you love him and care for him. I don't think you should leave him just yet give a chance! Answer his calls maybe he wants to apologise
2007-08-02 22:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon Add was only a small part of it... if he is not taking his med then yeah some of his behavier can be blamed , but you should not put up with this.... he may have ben your first love but you sound sweet so he won;t be the last.... eventually you will have to say something ..... the sooner you do the sooner you can move on............
2007-08-02 22:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by belle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, get him to a doctor as soon as possible. He may need medication or even counseling. If you don't love him, advise him to see a doctor anyway and then tell him how you feel and break up with him.
2007-08-02 22:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sloan R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but i would question someone that put my life in danger like that.
If i did that to a girl i would feel terrible.
2007-08-02 22:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by hckysnpr101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to get help at once.
If you feel unsafe with him, then it is good reasons to break up. Then again, no one can tell you if it is enough to dump him. You have to know yourself.
2007-08-02 22:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋