there are things i wish to be done in bed secretly but i am always too bashful to tell guys what i want. and also, do guys like it when a girl tells them what they really like or do guys like it when a girl stays shy about it? so should i stay shy about it OR tell the boys want i really want?
2007-08-02 18:48:55 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Darlin, I know you may be worried about what what a guy might think if you say it, but guys are simple creatures. If you were to be BLUNT and say what you wanted, most guys would be EXTREMELY turned on. They would most likely be so into it. I've been told a couple of times woman's secret fantasies, and it was SUCH a turn on to make it come true. Take a chance... You might be surprised by what you get...
2007-08-02 18:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by Rav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A common complaint I hear from men is that women are too inhibited in bed. They often wish that women would quit their monotonous, repetitive act of moaning and simply indulge in their most animalistic desires. Women are always so worried about how others interpret them as people that they're rarely willing to embrace themselves and just go for it.
I suggest throwing these things out there and watching the outcome of it all. If he's for it, then all the better for you, and if he's not, is that really someone you can fully enjoy sex with? If not, then girl, what the hell is the point? I have some of the freakiest desires and I openly express them to my boyfriend. He's generally indifferent if he's not interested -- any man who approaches these topics with arrogance and lack of class is too immature to be taking his pants off for anything other than to take a leak.
2007-08-02 18:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys love dirty talk, but it's perfectly normal to be shy about it. Start off with something small, like if he's doing something that feels good, let him know. Your shyness will eventually go away little by little and you'll be able to open up more. Think of all the pleasure you'll have once you can really tell your guy what gets you hot!
2007-08-02 18:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by Spicy!!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean. I LOVE being submissive to my man as well. I don't know why... I'm not looking for a "father figure" or anything of the sort, I just enjoy knowing I am HIS. That might sound sick to others but it's the honest to God truth! When I first told my boyfriend that I enjoyed it, I don't think he took me seriously but over time he has realized that I was and am just being honest and straightforward. As for the bedroom - WOW - that's all I will say! I don't think you're sick but I do think that it would scare of some men... Not all but some!
2016-04-01 14:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be shy! Tell them exactly what you want and how you want it. Nothing turns on a guy more than to see his lover enjoying his work. It's sexy when a girl knows what she wants, and you'll have a lot more fun in the process, and so will he!
2007-08-02 18:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by MAC Addict 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read this carefully: GUYS LOVE FREAKS!!!
of course he wants u to tell him what u like! thats a turn on to them. think of the most freakiest thing and tell him u want to do it.
he probably BEEN wanted to do half the stuff u do, but didn't want to say it because he figured u wasn't into it or you were to shy to try it.
Prove him wrong honey, and get off that shy stuff!!! Like I always say : A close mouth doesn't get fed ( u know what I mean! wink, wink)
2007-08-02 19:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by vcarter234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally understand where you're coming from. well, I'm pretty sure a lot of guys would like it if their girl told them what they wanted in bed. it would take the pressure off of them in trying to figure out what works for you.
you should tell the guy what you want but make fun. it would really help the sexual aspect of your relationship.
2007-08-02 18:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in the other persons shoes. Like for instance, if your going down, wouldn't it be better if you had some instruction from your man. That way you know what he likes, you know what it takes to get him off. And doesn't it feel good to know that you got him off? So yes, you should tell him what you want, and how you like it, because he'll be glad that he made your toes curl.
2007-08-02 18:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being bashful is good..Guys like it when you pretend to be a little hard to get.Its no fun when a woman just lets you do whatever.Most men love a woman who knows how to please herself and uses him to achieve your own lust full ideas.By the way most men are turned off by crude language.Show him..Don't tell em
2007-08-02 19:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell guys what u want. a lot of them would love it b/c then they can fully pleasure u. dont worry ur not weird. everybody gets shy about something.
2007-08-02 18:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by Natalie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋