my bf makes fun of me and acts like its 1st grade and picks on me because he likes me. Like he knows i hate it and all he says is he's joking and he loves me but he says nicer things about my mom than he says about me. Should i be concern? and how can you make someone stop when it's not funny anymore? ive told him and told him i dont like it and say cant u ever be nice and he's always like i'm joking just dont take it serious you know i love u. any advice?
2007-08-02 18:06:02 · 8 answers · asked by Rayray 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's scapegoating you and most likely has some resentment towards you. Get away from him because all he will do is bring you down. If you care about someone you do not hurt them certainly not constantly.
2007-08-02 18:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kindestkid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear you. Well, my advice is to plainly but bluntly tell him how it makes you feel. Set up some consequences if he does it again. That's one way...it should work if he loves you. If he does it again, make sure you stick to what you said the consequences would be.
If I may go a little further, I submit to you that your BF might have a self esteem problem. It sounds like the classic case of "get to them before they get to you". We generally project the things we hate and fear in our own lives onto the easy targets around us. Obviously, your word carries no weight with him. You've said how you feel and his desire to "joke" is stronger than his desire to "please" his lady. I don't usually condone an eye for an eye but in this case if ALL else fails and you still want to be with him, give him a taste of his own medicine. He's got some secret or insecurity that only you know about. Throw it back at him and say..."oh, I was just joking. Can't I have fun too!" If that doesn't get him, drop him and get someone who knows your worth. I'm sure YOU know it, but if not, most of these kinds of problems wouldn't be happening if you did.
Hope it helps.
2007-08-03 01:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jazzriff 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
two anwsers:
don't take it seriously, make fun of him back.
get rid of him, if you tell him it hurts your feelings and he still does it, isn't not gonna stop and it will only get worse.
i would make fun of him back, if he says he's joking and you joke too(thats not stooping to his level-since you are all joking) and he gets upset, then maybe he'll get the picture. or maybe he'll stop if he knows you will throw something right back at him.
2007-08-03 01:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by akd_0713 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk with him. Tell him you really don't enjoy him making fun of you. Tell him to stop, because it pisses you off. Tell him that if he really does truley love you, he'll stop making fun of you all the time.
2007-08-03 01:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be happy...Most BFs are funny in the beginning but lose their flavor over time...If he's keeping you smiling and laughing, that sppels good...Try taking it lightly or even try to tease back, that way it'll be fun together...
2007-08-03 01:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he does not respect your desires then how much can he really care for you??? ---- if all of your words have not made a difference them maybe you should let him know that you no longer want to see him --- no ultimatums just a straight out decision ---- best wishes
2007-08-03 01:18:28 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to ignore him and see if you are significant to him.
2007-08-03 01:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by littlehappy_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him. He'll realize that you are serious.
2007-08-03 01:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋