my x boyfriend wants to get back together with me.We broke up for many little things but mostly because he had a hard time dealing with and adjusting to dealing with the package that comes with me i.e.5 kids who do have some behavioral issues.the breakup was mutual.Now,he is telling me it was the biggest mistake of his life and he has grown and wants to be there for me and help me.We laugh together,get along good,and relate well.Other than 1 thing,i think he would make a pretty good catch.The one thing is very hard to explain so i will just give one example and hope you get the jist of it.If i had a best friend who did me wrong one day and had a serious crisis in their life the next day.i would be there for them no matter how mad i was.I do not believe he would or is that kind of person.He is trying to do lots for me right now.But i ask,why did he not do lots for me when we were together.is this fake or has he grown.
2007-08-02 17:50:44 · 6 answers · asked by justme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm going to put two and two together here and hope I guessed this right...your crisis, involved your child(ren) in some way...hun, if he wasn't sure he was ready to play any type of "father" role - especially 5 kids worth, it could have made him get very scared and run in the opposite direction.
Now, as far as your "I'd do anything for someone..."....you have to understand that you can't put how YOU handle situations on someone else. Just because they don't do things the same way you do, does not make them a bad person, they are just different than you. You might be the type that can put yourself out there for anyone and anything, but that does not mean everyone can...or should....nor should you force it, expect it - or judge someone for it.
2007-08-02 17:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he has grown. But if you really want to be together he needs to really understand that you're a package! Not only does he get you but your wonderful 5 kids! Remember both your decisions affect them too which could be part of their behavior problems.
2007-08-03 00:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by Nessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to understand. taking on 5 kids is a HUGE responsibility...it is hard....it takes time to adjust to becoming a parent. he wasn't able to form a bond with the babies one at a time as they were born. he is trying to form a bond with SIX people all at once. and i am sure you are probably aware of this.
i really think that he needed time to step back and take a breath...he did....and now he can see with a clear head that it is all worth it.
he already had the chance to leave...he could have ran and never looked back. but, he didn't.
without any details i can't explain why he wasn't there when you needed him. but, dont throw away a potentially good realtionship unless you are absolutely sure.
2007-08-03 01:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fake. He won't be there for the kids, just you. The kids will be left out and that's not fair.
2007-08-03 00:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
5 kids are plenty. give him another chance.
2007-08-03 00:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound like he's all that interested in you actually
2007-08-03 00:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋