2007-08-02 17:46:23 · 12 answers · asked by sandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Madam, try to teach the Moral of life to Kids. Members of family should respect and help each other. While you are cooking, cleaning, shopping ask others in family to help because you are cooking, cleaning for all and you are alone.
Happy moments comes in those house who are happy & co operate others.
2007-08-02 19:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by keshav s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Q."being a single parent(MOTHER) how to treat kids"?
A. Same way as any other mother.
Q. "develop all round personalities in kids"?
A. Just do your best.
Q. "earn their respect"?
A. Kid must earn your respect, you are the boss, be pleasant but firm, set an example for them, read up on thing that you feel you need to know that you lack knowledge of.......
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The parents should behave like a parent. They should have their children's best interest in their mind and heart. They must love their children, they can be friends but they must not behave like buddies, there is a big difference, know it or learn it.
2007-08-03 04:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Kumud,
Very relevant question and I appreciate your concern. My thoughts on this are:
- If you are a working mother, you need to strike a balance between your professional life and personal life ensuring adequate space and quality time to be spent with the child.
- Your approach depends upon the age of kid (or kids?) and the circumstance under which you became a single parent.
- Be open in communcation with the kid(s) They should be aware of your financial status so that they knit their dreams accordingly. This will reduce/avoid disappointments.
- Be always friendly but assertive
- Never allow relatives, friends and neighbours to poke their nose to your family affairs and try to influence the kid(s)
- You should be the friend, philosopher and guide to them.
- Take them out to the extent possible, show them the good and evil things around them and talk to them about the consequences in case they get into bad company.
- Spend quality time with them during their studies and help them out through tuition, study classes etc and talk to them about values of education.
- Learning and teaching alone should not be their motives.
They should also have spare time to play with friends, watch TV etc.
- Through your close interaction, you can evaluate their strengths and weaknesses. Help them to develop on their strengths and improve upon their weaknesses.
Once you make them feel at home they will start seeing the father and mother in you and look through you the entire world outside.
Be patient, calm and take the positive side of everything and you will enjoy your life.
Please seek support whenever you feel the need for it from friends like me.
Cheers
2007-08-03 02:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by villager 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U must love the kids and gently tell them your problems. If u have a male kid, let him take the responsiblity of being the man of the house. Slowly, they should understand your problems and be of use in the house. They will later develop into strong and dependable men.
Maybe it is unfair to put all the responsibilities on such young shoulders, but it is not u but providence that has made this situation.
2007-08-03 03:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i ADMIRE AND APPRECIATE YOUR COURAGE. a MOTHER KNOWS BY INSTINCT WHAT IS GOOD FOR HER CHILD. Just follow the cues and dont let your heart rule the mind. Children have the knack of sensing your guilt feelings or weaknesses and turning to their advantage. So keep a firm hand on them while taking every oppurtunity to shower them with your love and affection. Don't try to hide your difficulties in coping up alone, from them, nor should you make it an issue at every point.
2007-08-03 06:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by jwala 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them.
Talk to them about everything and anything. Ask
them questions and tell them about your personal
experiences in different situations.
Definately show them you are serious about dicipline, but also catch them doing good deeds and praise them for it. Tell them how proud you are that they are acting so great.
Learn with them by doing things with them at least
once or twice a month.
Show them you love and care about them in little
ways. And tell them how much you need their help
to make your family the best it can be.
2007-08-03 01:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by Blessed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most of the time even im in the same situation ,its difficult managing alone. being a friend and a guide to them is important. better to share any problems in the family with them and ask for solutions. sometimes they give good advice. if they r small then you need to spend time with them.
2007-08-03 03:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by tina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hon i was a single mother in the military. i was sent to iraq for a one year while my son grew up in someone elses house. it is hard yes but once you get the hang it it will come like second nature to you. you must be strong and willing to accept whatever life brings out to you.
2007-08-03 01:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by bittersweetandsour 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Develop culture ,traditions and discipline in the children. They should inculcate good habits.
2007-08-03 01:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by baba 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U talk to ur kid with respect. U give respect to ur elders
infront of them. Talk to ur kid with good words always.
Tell moral stories to ur kid. These habits will give best
result always.
2007-08-03 02:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋