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Question

I have a crush on a guy i met online through a dating website, he lives several states away from me. He and i have exchanged platonic emails and well i found he had a myspace and now we are myspace pals and leave each other friendly, flirty comments. I have since left that dating site. But am still on myspace. On the dating site he listed he wanted someone 10 miles from where he lives, i stated i wanted someone 50 miles from where i live. But somehow we caught each others attention. Anyways my question really is: Should I tell him i have a crush and try to take it to the next level, or should i just lay back and wait for him, or just totally forget about it. Please help i don't know what to do.

Thanks to everyone, i have since email my crush i didn't tell him i like him, i told him we should meet and he agreed, and said we could meet up somewhere in the near future possibly in another state since he has no plans to be in my state, but he also said career wise he might end up being in my state and said he would definately look me up! And yes i gave him my phone number he didn't say anything about that part though:(

oh yeah for all those that think he's 45, on his myspace he has friends who have posted personal pics of them hanging out with him, And yes he is who he says he is. I even checked out the College he goes to and he is also on there website. So ha.

Answer 1

Maybe you catching each others attention even though some of your crudentials were different, might be a sign.. like a fate or something.. Idk if you believe in that.. Try being a little more flirty.. do you ever talk on the phone?? maybe you could try that.. be a little more flirty in your comments and things.. Send him a message and talk about stuff, instead of keeping things to comments.. See if he says anything.. but if he doesn't id say within the next couple of weeks, tell him!! See where it goes.. if it doesn't go anywhere.. then just look elsewhere..

good luck :]

Answer 2

Well long distance relationships really don't work. I would talk to him about how you are starting to feel for him, and if he feels the same way, then propose a vacation/meeting. Somewhere in between...at a public place. NO SLEEPOVERS! :-) See if you all click together. Then go from there. Relationships take a lot of work. Especially those far far away. So take the first step and ask him if he would like to meet you in person and propose a meeting place. If the magic of love happens, and you end up being his soulmate, he will move to where you are.....or may be vice versa. You never know. But, please keep in mind to not over expect things to happen. Expectations can lead us to disappointments if they are too extreme for the situation at hand. Good luck. I hope you find what you're looking for. :-)

Answer 3

I'm sorry, but I think you should just forget about it. Why? I'll tell you why.

Online dating is one of the worst ways to get a boyfriend/girlfriend. You need to actually know some of the person on who you are meeting with. If he is a few states away, it would be very difficult to meet up with him. He says he wants someone within 10 miles away from him, and you want someone 50 miles away from you. If he's a few states away, and it's online dating, I say you should just drop it. Even if he may be the type that you would definitely go for, I think that it would not be the best idea..

Good luck.

Answer 4

Well, by nature, most men love the "chase" of it all. The most attractive woman in the world can almost instantaneously turn unattractive if the chase is cut too short. I don't know why that is nor am I suggesting that all men are this way...I'm speaking from personal experience and the experiences of my friends, family members, etc. My suggestion is to continue the casual flirting. Make sure that your intentions are subtle but easily understood. We like the chase but we don't want to think too hard! The catch is to do all of this in a way that does not come off as manipulative or childish. Please, by all means, don't play games...big turn off. Also, don't give in too soon. Make him realize your worth as humbly as you possibly can. If he doesn't get the picture, I would suggest you verbalize your intentions blatantly. If this doesn't work then he probably didn't have the same intentions as you did from the start.

Answer 5

You might tell him you have a crush, since it's the truth. There's no harm in that. On the other hand, you're both aware that you wanted relationships with people closer to home, so don't have much hope of "taking it to another level." Maybe consider him as a pen-pal type friend.

Answer 6

Meet him half way, and take a friend with you. Meet him at a
restaurant for lunch, but don't mention about your friend.
Offer to go dutch and that way, you each pay your own and
there is no other obligation to anyone. There is safety in
numbers. so if this guy doesn't turn out to be mr. right for you.
"Just keep on trucking." :-})

Answer 7

i think it's cheezy to say "i have a crush on you." just send him a message one day saying "so when you gonna come see me? =)" by his reaction you'll know where the relationship will go. if he gives you an off the wall question like "see you? that far? ugh!" THEN say, "well fine, gosh. thought we could hook up or something, but nvm!" either he takes that bait, and asks "hook up? oh..." or it wouldn't have been anything at all~

basically, just give him a push =)

Answer 8

How do you take it to the next level when you've never even met him? The "next level" as you put it is dating. How will you be doing that on the internet?

Answer 9

Go For it, let him know you do, it's hot when the girl makes the first move.

Answer 10

How old are you? And how do you know he is not 45 years old and after young stupid girls like you?