My dad just said....?

Question

(about how he's hurting me and my brother) "Well I don't give a f***. F*** them. They'll forgive me later. They always will"
And I didn't feel anything. Is something wrong with me?

Answer 1

I guess you're a very practical girl.
I don't know if something is wrong with you or not, but I think you became like this because of the situations around you.
I know this didn't help but I just thought I should say something.

Answer 2

That was definitely a hurtful thing to say, whether you could hear it or not! If you have the kind of household that actually talks to each other, I would wait until things calm down and you have some privacy so he doesn't get embarrassed or defensive. Tell him that it deeply hurts you and your brother; ask if he is able to refrain from swearing and saying those kinds of things. (I know you say that "you didn't feel anything", but you are posting this on the internet, so you must feel something about it.)

20+ years ago (when I was in jr. high school), my Mother said to me, "I wish you were never born, then I could do what ever I want." I'm scarred for life! It still rings in my ears and she passed away at age 38 in 1995. Now I'm 35.

I never talked to my mother about this until I was in my early to mid 20's. She apologized and we became closer. Maybe you will wait years before you say anything, but it only shows lack of vocabulary on you Dad's part and poor coping mechanisms... he doesn't manage his anger well.

I hope I understood your question well enough to answer correctly and that you two are going to be okay.

Answer 3

Wrong with you? Goodness no girl. There is definitely something wrong with your father. Shame on him for talking that way. You really didn't give to much detail, but what you wrote, I can tell that your father has some parenting issues and he needs some counseling. You might want to consider counseling yourself to get this anger out of you. I know you've got to be angry at him for the way he's treating you and your brother. Talk with your brother and may be both of you can get some help. Bless your heart girl. I was an abused child myself and I carried so much anger inside me from what my father did to me and my sisters. No one would help us. No one would cross him. I'm going on 37 and still dealing with some issues. I should have had couseling when I was 12. That's when I moved in with my mother and step father. My Mom asked me if I wanted counseling, and I said no. Being so young, and not really knowing what was best for me, my mother should have pushed counseling on me because I think I would actually feel better inside today if I did. Talk to someone. What does your Mom say about how he treats you and your brother? Next time...make him wait for forgiveness. A long time. The reason you didn't feel anything when your father was talking like that, is because you have become numb inside to his abuse. It's not good sweetie. You need to let it out. Please let a counselor help you. You will feel so much better letting 'everything' out. If you want to talk more, let me know ok. Just add me as a friend and send me a personal message ok? We'll go from there. :-) Take care sweetie.

Answer 4

Your just angry right now you should not feel that way about your dad he does what he can to make your life better that what he ever had. I know how you feel and I right now feel the same way about my family. I'm considered the black sheep of the family because I tell them the same thing, but They always telling me things that hurt me and I go and tell them something that i know about them that they would not want no one to ever find out, and in the end I still do not feel as if I'm wrong or that I care. One day you will be able to control your anger and they will notice the new change, but you have to not let them get to you or do anything to make them seem as if you do not want to change. Forgive him and let him know how you feel and that if he change you will change and you both can work together on your feelings.

Answer 5

No you are fine. I bet he is just upset about something and he will get over it. He should not have said that about you. That was mean and unkind to say about your kids.Just do not let him get you upset. I bet you are a sweet girl and a pretty girl as well. You should not let him get to you. Some times dads can be mean and not think about what they are saying. Well actually all guys can be that way. Just be your own sweet self and everything will be fine. Just try to ignore him when he does things like that. You just are not close to your dad and you see how mean he can be. I think that is a shame that he is like that with you! Just keep smiling :)

Answer 6

Probly not; you're just used to his abusiveness and don't take it personally. That's healthy. I'm sure his behavior is not personal toward you. He treats everybody like crap.

Answer 7

Nope , i am like that too and i don't think anything is wrong with me the ppl around us cause us to be like such... :-(

Answer 8

No. You're probably not very close to your dad so when he says things like that it does not matter to you.