how do you get over someone your still in love with?

Question

me and my boyfreind went out for a year.
all we did is fight and we both wernt happy in the relationship anymore so i ended it.

but im still in LOVE with him.
and everything i see and do reminds me of him.

what the best way to get over our first true love??

Answer 1

time heals most wounds

original proverb or something is "time heals all wounds".. but i myself have gone through frustrating times, and if i just waited for time to come along and save my sorry *** my life wouldve been over already

so anyway.. i think time does heal this wound.. it took me 3 weeks to get over my first love

Answer 2

The general rule for getting over a lover is that it takes half the time of the relationship to feel better. In your case since the relationship was a year, it may take 6 months or so.

I think the idea from this premise is, that it takes time. For a period of time you will just feel bad. Within a couple of weeks, you will start thinking less and less of him. In fact you will surprise yourself because you will be thinking of something else and not him.

Probably the worse thing you can do is stay at home by yourself. That just gives you nothing but time to miss him.

To help the time go faster, stay busy. go out with friends you care about and keep your calendar full. In no time you will feel much better. You may even meet someone else during your activities, who knows?

Good Luck

Answer 3

Date his best friend,...

Seriously there is no easy way to get over someone. You are doing it the only way there is, you think about it and you understand that the relationship was not a good one to be in and now you are out. You can love someone forever and with all your heart but as you know that doesn't mean you belong together or that is what is right.

Remember him, remember all the reasons you love him while keeping in mind all the reasons you cant be with him. Write them both on paper... once that is done you will know what you are looking for in a new love as well as exactly what you are not looking for.

Take time - be with friends and sooner or later it will all come together.

Answer 4

The best thing to do is create memories to replace memories. Make yourself go to the places you both considered special. It will be torture, but the next time you go it won't be so bad and soon, no big deal. You will no longer associate those places with him. Also, have a new view of yourself. I'm not suggesting you aren't confident now, but get a new confidence about yourself, one that makes you feel free and alive being single. It takes some time to get over someone, whether you fought or not it can be torture. But in the meantime you can help change it doing other things.

Answer 5

You don't really get over someone. The love you feel for them will change over time. It will change from being IN love with them, to just loving and caring for them. Sometimes people get the two mixed up. 17 years later, certain things still remind me of my first and second boyfriend. Everyone you encounter in your lifetime will leave their mark somehow, from certain songs, to certain smells, to certain scenery and so on. You may feel like you're 'in' love with him still, but it just might be 'love' that is with you. It's love, as loving your friend. A caring love that will be with you for a long time. Sometimes when we break up a relationship, and are friends with that someone still, we find out that we can be better friends for each other, than being partners. So, don't shut your heart out to someone else that may be your soulmate. Take a chance/risk and let your heart love again. You have to let go of the past, so you can have a future. :-) Love is what nourishes our soul. You'll be just fine. Hang in there.

Answer 6

Maybe you're just missing being with someone. I think your description - "all we did is fight" - should tell you that things should be different if people really love each other. A great rule for being with/staying with anyone is: How do you feel after spending time together? If you feel good, then go back for more. If you feel worse than you do when you're alone or hanging out with friends, forget about him.

Answer 7

Sounds like you are in Love with the What could have been, not the What was. You break up and go seperate ways for a reason. Maybe you are not able to completely understand that right now, but in time you will. Best wishes

Answer 8

Time is what is going to eventually get the pain to stop but while you are waiting you could take a express all the emotions you are feeling toward him by writing it down, after that just keep yourself busy so you don't have enough time to think about him, spend more time with friends, go out, live life, and eventually you won't have to try to get over him, you will be over him

Answer 9

I know exactly how that feels. It took me a long time for the pain to fade away. What I did was - reflect on my entire life and look at every possible way I could better myself. I thought about our relationship and how I could learn from it. Keeping yourself busy and meeting other people helps for friendship or otherwise - spend time with your friends...but be careful. If you lean on them too much, it seems to add some distance to your friends at a time when you need them most.

Answer 10

True love isn't fighting with someone everyday.

Do your parents do the same thing?

You may want to be aware of the problems or bad things your parents do in their relationship so you don't make the same mistakes.

If he was your first love then of course your gonna be stuck on him. Just give it time. Its hard. In time it will pass more and more.

Answer 11

You're not going to want to hear this...but it's going to take time. And...you never ever get over your first true love. There's always a special place in your heart for them. It's been a LONG time since I even saw my first love...and even though we broke up on bad terms, today, I can think of him fondly and move on. I never thought that would happen, but it took a lot of time. Good Luck to you!