Why do guys not have to even LIKE someone to have sex w/ them?

Question

I'm a woman and I have to BE ATTRACTED to someone to get busy with him. This is why I rarely have sex. That, and I'm not a whore. But why do guys not even have to be ATTRACTED to a girl to do it with them? i read in an article once that guys will have sex with their enemies if given the chance.

If a guy is having sex with you, he may not even necessarily be attracted to you!? This is bonkers to me, but the older I get, the more interactions I have w/ guys at work, school, socially etc., I see a running theme of "It doesn't matter who I do it with, as long as I do it."

I'm 21. Now that I'm older, I dont 'get all giddy anymore when a guy flirts with me b/c in my head, I understand that they probably don't even like me, which makes no sense that they're flirting, but so is life.

so...back to my question-why do guys not even have to like someone in the slightest to have sex with them?

Answer 1

this my sound stupid its because guys just want something to stick there thing in . and some guys dont care who it is .

Answer 2

I don't think they do. I am the same way although I am much older (40) and I have to like someone, be attracted to someone, and have their respect, before I would think of getting physical with them. I am surprised at how quickly guys want to get physical and claim to like a girl. They don't care enough about the girl to help her out when she is having a hard time, but they care enough about her to want to have sex with her, yeah right.

Answer 3

Not to be mean here, but why does it matter to you? You know what you are looking for in a partner, and you know you don't want one of these pigs. But don't paint all guys with the same wide brush.

Some of the guys that are flirting with you *MAY* be decent men. You need to look at each guy on his own merits. If you don't want to have sex with a guy on the 1st, 2nd, 20th date, then don't. If the guy is serious about you then he will respect that and continue to get to know you.

If you don't get a 2nd or 3rd date with one of these bozos then you know that they were one of the ones you are talking about and you dodged a bullet.

Answer 4

You're running into the wrong guys. I'm nineteen and still a virgin, because I haven't found a decent girl. I have had chances, yes, but if I'm not in 'love'--I use that term loosely--I'm not going to have sex. As simple as that. And I have like minded male friends. I also have female friends who *are* indiscriminate.

Answer 5

Unfortunately, the base instinct of the average male takes over, and their brains fall between their legs. Not all men, but pretty much the majority - as witnessed by the one night stand heartbreaks, bars, online meeting rooms, conquering syndrome, etc...
You got smart early, good for you - don't be a piece of meat to anyone!

Answer 6

I don't think it's limited to just guys but I definitely see your point. To me it's simple-- lack of morals. There is a huge moral deficiency in this country and people have sex for selfish reasons. Why do you think there are so many unwanted pregnancies and kids without fathers?

Answer 7

Unfortunately, when our "lower" brain FULLY takes over - it can make the rest of our body (and our "upper" brain) it's slave...

I don't care what guys say - there is NO way to ignore what our lower half is doing 100% of the time...

Even nice guys like me can fall under it's spell - it just happens a LOT less (like once or twice in a LIFETIME) to those of us who have proper SELF CONTROL ;););)

I'm sorry that you have become jaded because of your bad experience with guys - hopefully you will meet one of us "nice guys" who will treat you with the Love and RESPECT that you deserve :):):):)

Answer 8

your right about the whole ATTRACTION...i mean i wouldnt have sex with a guy im not attracted to. But if a guy does have sex with a girl he is not attracted its not like he forced her she must have been attracted to him...but thats good that ur SMART enough to know and understand...but bottom line you should only worry abt ur reasons for having sex...

Answer 9

Cuz men are pigs and they only think with one thing, and as long as they're getting some it doesn't matter who its from! Well not all guys are like this, but most are

Answer 10

It's not just guys... Have you seen MTV real world's Jen and Colie? Those chicks are just as worst as some men hell have seen this season of Real World? Have you been to a club recently?.

Answer 11

see my fiance, once had sex with this really ugly azs chick, and when i first found out i was so down on myself, like wth? i'm being compared to THAT?

so i asked him why her? and he couldn't give me an answer. "just because." so i asked then why me? and he explained why he loves me. and then i asked him so how did you distinguish the difference between me and her? he sat there for a minute.. then he said because you presented yourself like a lady, so i couldn't do anything but treat you like one. she presented herself like a h o e so i treated her like one.

so because he couldn't answer the question.. just like every one said.. it's just natural. as long as these women act like they do, men will take advantage of it. don't blame it on the men that there's free p____ everywhere for them to get. if females had some respect for themselves, men will gain some of their dignity back.

moral of the story is... just keep that respect for yourself... a man will come to notice it! it may be a guy you see every day, that looks at you in amazement by the way you work and carry yourself, but is so stuck on these "girls"... maybe he hasn't come to his senses yet! maybe some guys have to go through that phase, and get so sick and tired of it before they want to settle down--like mine did. hey, i don't have to worry about him fooling around at least! he's gotten enough of that... he's got enough of me all day everyday anyway haha