my daughter picks on me every day and swares at me alot.it,s come to the point that i cant stand hearing her ***** about me every day i love her very very much but i cant get through to her. sometimes i think she has the devil in her . i,m terrified of her, i just want her to love me and be my best friend. has anyone got ant advise for me please i cant take it anymore.
2007-08-02 16:51:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont do the whole BEST FRIEND thing it doesnt work...just be a PARENT...set some rules..
2007-08-02 16:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know how old your daughter is but this behavior did not start or happen over night. 1st I would like you to know that being a mother does not = best Friend. Pick which one you are going to be mother or Friend. 2nd she needs some tuft love now that it has spin ed out of control. I would start by making her accountable for her actions and behavior. Example smart mouth take away a privilege. I would not care if she screams on the top of her lungs. Bottom line is you have your work cut out for you and the pattern has been set for years of you letting her do what she wants.
This will not work for her in the real world and she will have a real hard time getting or keeping a job. School counselors might be able to help you along the way. Good Luck.
2007-08-03 02:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only strong advice that I can give is for you to be a parent and not a best friend to your child. It does sound like she is a demon daughter but if you have no control over her then it may be necessary to have her removed from your house until she can learn to live by the rules that you have set down. And one of them cannot be that she has to be your best friend. She is not after a friend in you but a parent. She obviously has many friends that are her own age so the last thing that she needs is for her mom to want to befriend her. It's time for mom to grow up also.
2007-08-02 16:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to put up with her ****... You're the parent, She's the child - as long as shes under your roof she should abide by YOUR rules. You need to snap at her, ground her, take things away [privladges and/or items like cell phones, television, computer ect..] untill you get the point across. Don't try to be her best friend... she already has friends, what she needs is a parent. Your responsibility that you signed up for the day you decided to have a child is to shape her as a person, teach her right from rong and set rules. It sounds to me like your daughter controls you so now I think it's time to show her who calls shots around here... you do. So start callin them!
2007-08-02 17:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a Dr. Phil situation. You need professional help and this cite is way to lame to give you much help. All the advice in the world is not going to change your situation until there are some serious behavior changes in you and your daughter. The can only happen with professional counseling that helps you each to set boundaries and rules for behavior. Every community has social services available based on income guidelines if you need low cost/no cost services. You local library has a list of services and can help you start finding the help you need. Don't give up because I dealt with such a child, behavior disorder, and she has grown up to make me proud, with a child of her own now. This can be turned around, it's not too late. o.k. God is with you on this if you call on Him and I will pray for your wisdom to do what you need to do.
2007-08-02 17:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Dianne m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every young teenager or kid or adolscent goes through that phase its not the devil lol its a phase while growing up finding yourself your identity so much going on emotionally physically mentally just wait and check out few years from now it will be fine
2007-08-02 16:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry...it breaks my heart that a daughter does stuff like that to a mom. I love my mother very very much. First things first, i want you to know that she loves you. she loves you so much, its just that things going on in her life aren't going as well as she wanted them to and she takes it out on you. Im sorry. but here try this...
ask her if she would like to go shopping and you'll buy her some clothes for the new school year..
ask her if she would like to see a good romantic comedy..
ask her if she wants to go out to dinner...
ask her if she wants to go to an amusement park..
...try going out of the house...that way, she'll cool down in front of people. try bringing her somewhere she'll have fun. but dont force her because she might get stressed even more.
maybe go on a vacation, you and your daughter only to some far away place from your hometown so it forces her to stay with you. You have to show her that you're in control of the family and that she cant treat you like that. You need to tell her that she needs to respect you in every way...then let her know how f***n hard it was to get her out of you stomach!!
good luck..
2007-08-02 17:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by shhweet candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your daughter is embarrassed by you the same way that you're embarrassed by your mother.
BTW, stop posting all of your questions in singles & dating. Post them in the appropriate categories.
2007-08-02 16:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by Winnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to church when she argues dont argue back tell her u love her when she starts with the **** tell her i luv u and God loves u get her things hope this helps if not shes hopeless we all no where shes hedding with her daddy the devil
2007-08-02 16:57:54 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Vannie♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is she? if she's young, you may need to take her to some kind of counseling. if she's older, like a teenager, just set some boundaries. give her her space. everything will fall ino place.
2007-08-02 16:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by heatherr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋