UGH, I don't know what to do?

Question

I yell at my parents sooooooo much and sometimes for NO reason. And then I feel SOOO bad later, but I'm just too embarrassed to apologize. (I'm weird like that). I don't know what's wrong with me. I want to stop yelling, but I just can't control myself. Seriously, I don't deserve the things they give me. they do sooo much for me, and I still act like a jerk, but often times, I don't mean to. I REALLY badly want to change, but I just don't know how. What can I do to decrease this anger I have? I think of all the things they do for me everyday, and then I just think about how much I don't deserve it.

I'm 16 right now. I don't know if I'll change in the future, but hopefully I will. I don't wanna be a spoiled, jerk forever.

Answer 1

Make a vow to yourself to change the way you treat them and mean it!! Your parents love you and I know you love them, start showing it!! It's part of growing up, it's respect!! If you start showing them the respect they deserve, you will feel better and they will too. They will see that you are maturing into a young adult. Concentrate on making this change happen, it will be for the best, for both you and your parents.

Only you can make this happen, don't put it off another moment, start consciously making the effort to be the best person you can be!!! When you feel the anger coming on, stop and think how you can control that outburst that you feel coming on!! Count to 10 and really think before you utter those hateful words that you can't take back after you say them. Think about how you would feel if your parents said those kind of things to you. You wouldn't like it, neither do they, nor do they deserve to be treated that way, certainly not by the child that they do so much for.

Good luck, I know you can do it, you just have to put your mind to it!! Make yourself proud of the person that you are and your parents will be proud too!! : )

Answer 2

I know what you mean. I'm kinda like that too (I'm the same age) and I really don't want to be that way. But before you act, take a deep breath, and think, really think about what you're life would be like without your parents. Not so good, huh? So yeah. You can do it. Start to realize that you're parents are VERY important and that you need them, and they do so much for you. There are so many kids in the world right now who don't have people caring for them, and you are very lucky. Trust me, you can do it if you try! Don't yell for no reason! Really think about whether this yelling is justifiable.
Hope this helped.

Answer 3

For one thing, you WILL change in the future. This behavior is perfectly natural at your age, and mine, I'm 14. I know apologizing can feel very embarrassing, but you just have to work up the courage too, you'll feel a lot better. You also have to just work on controlling yourself, you can do it. If you don't change perfectly though, don't worry, your parents will always forgive you and know that this is just a phase you are going through.. You obviously realize the wrong of your actions, and that is the first step, the one that many teenagers never get to. Just try your hardest, and remember that your parents will always love you.

Answer 4

You have to learn to control your emotions.
Take a deep breath and think about what you're going to say and how to say it.You really can learn to control yourself!!!Don't start yelling before you take that breath and think for a second.
At least you realize what you're doing is not respectable to your parents and is very wrong.That's a big step in the right direction.Now,you have to work on your emotions and controlling yourself.
You need to apologize to them and let them know you'll try very hard to be a better person from now on.Never be afraid to talk to your parents about anything.
It's not hard to say sorry but mean it when you do.Your parents will always be there for you no matter what.Love them and appreciate them as they do you.
Try really hard.YOU CAN DO IT.

Answer 5

Just take it a little at a time. Just start out by saying "sorry, I really didn't mean what I said". Honestly, IF you could just make yourself say it once, then twice, it w/come a lot easier the more you say it. The next time you're tempted to lash out, count to ten & see if that helps. It w/help control the instant reactions you're having & give you time to think before you speak. Honestly, make a consious effort to count before you speak. I believe that might just help the instant lashing out you seem to be doing. Then in time let them know you're really sorry, you didn't mean what you said & you DO appreciate all they do for you. YES, you CAN change, but only you have the power to change yourself, no one else can. Just realize how much you're hurting the ones you love & that you don't want to do it anymore. Think before you speak. It will help...Try it!

Answer 6

try putting a video camera out and viedeo tape the whole day but dont act any different then usual then look over the footage of u yelling at your parents that will hopefullt change alot. i used to whine when i was young and i put a rubberband around my wrist and snap myself when i whined so u would snap urself when u yelled. importantly u MUST apologize to your parents u will never feel better if u dont and talk to them about how u wish u didnt yell at them. but dont be embarassed there your parents there the ones who changerd your diapers what could be more embarasssing then that

Answer 7

next time you feel the urge to yell at your parents take a deep breath count to ten then think for a minute what life would be like if you lost your parent tomarrow! I'm sure you will think twice before yelling again

Answer 8

do you have a school counciler you can talk to about what's going on and why you are giving so much hostility to your parents...
or if you attend church ... your pastor
or maybe a professional.
i had a phase where i yelled at my mom alot but i realized she's my best friend and was hurting her when i yelled so i got over it and now treat her properly.
it's obvious you know how much they care and do for you... now you need to figure out why you can't control yourself and why you feel a need to yell instead of converse with them

Answer 9

uh hello?? HUGS!!!!!!!! <3 <3 <3 u don't have to REALLY say "i'm sorry for yelling at you all of the time mom and dad" *although that would be ideal* just be like "hey mom/dad" when they get home from work or something and hug em!!! p.s. don't get depressed about it... that never works... just makes ur parents more worried about u :(

Answer 10

Bipolar?