My fiance is in the hospital, he just had surgery today. He had his apendix removed, and is in a lot of pain. He is supposed to be discharged tomarrow, depending on how well everything goes. We are having some money problems, so we have both been trying to work some extra hours. Well, I want to stay home from work tomarrow to take care of him. I live with him, and I Really want to be the one to take care of him. But he wants me to go to work because we need the money. My work has already said that I can stay home if I need to. My question is, should I stay home or go to work? And if I do stay home, would it be okay if I asked my dad if I could borrow some money, like $150 just so we don't get behind on bills? I have never asked my Dad to help me out financially, it just makes me feel bad. Please give me your advice, I feel stuck.
2007-08-02 15:44:09 · 5 answers · asked by Stark 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you Crazy Legs. My dad and fiance get along great. And my dad and I are very close. My fiance had the same surgery that my dad had a few years ago, at the same hospital, so he will know how much after care he will need, or if he thinks he will just want to be left alone. I think I'm going to call him, and just ask. He will tell me no if he can't afford it, he isn't shy at all.
2007-08-02 16:01:39 · update #1
Stark it depends on how close a relationship you have with your father, if indeed he can afford it, and if you in reality expect it. If you and your dad are close then I imagine that he will try and find some way of getting you the money ever if he has to borrow it himself. If he honestly can't afford it and has no where to go and get it then it would probably be a big embarrassment to him to have to deny your request. But if you go asking and talking like you expect him to just hand it over then he may just surprise you and say forget it if you are going to sound that ungrateful. Majority of fathers that I know would walk on burning coals for their daughters and try and help them out as best they could. I suppose it should be taken into account how well your man and your dad get along also. If they have a good relationship then dad will be far more open to helping you both, but if they don't get on that good that may create a little bit of a problem. Regardless I would attempt to approach your dad in a mature and open minded manner and let him know why you need the money and let him know it is just a loan until you can afford to repay him. Reality is though that most fathers when loaning money to their kids, be it male or female, are usually ready to chalk up these loans as bad debts. Best of luck to your boyfriend with his operation and to you and your dad in negotiating this loan.
2007-08-02 15:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's what needs to happen - Talk to your dad, and although it can be akward and humbling let him know that you will pay him back, and that you understand if he says no. If he does say no, then just move on - And get to work. You know your husband, and his condition. Does someone honestly need to stay home and take care of him? Or would you ''feel better'' if you were there? Also, would it be a mistake to miss a day of work in your current financial state?
You can always put your fiancee on the couch with snacks and the phone, and tell him to call you if he needs anything. Let your manager know that you may need to leave in case of an emergency. Otherwise, if it truly would be okay in every aspect if you missed work tomorrow - Then by all means take care of him.
2007-08-02 22:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sam F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask. Sounds like you are responabily and havent abuse the bank of dad. I would just make it clear that your asking to borrow with some clear time lines to repay.
2007-08-03 05:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by Armour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the end of the world.. it is not life threatening...
go to work...
why put the burden of ur bills on ur dad's back?
if u ever want to marry this guy... ur dad will think twice...
go to work....
he told u ... u could... maybe he wants to rest.. w/out a lot of jabbering...
go to work...
take care of him this w'end....
2007-08-02 22:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it..stay home take care of yor man..ask dad for the money ..its what were here for.
2007-08-02 22:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by Jackofalltrades216 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋