My parents aren't always arguing but they argue over the dumbest little things. My dad is an alcoholic, my mom is a little controlling, and both are stubborn as hell. I didn't think it was bothering me until a week ago when I got drunk and started punching the ground and crying over it. I really don't want them to get a divorce, especially because I am Catholic and I don't believe in it. So what should/ can I do to help the situation. Help please. This is starting to take its toll on me.
2007-08-02 15:13:30 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You cannot be responsible for your parent's decisions, but they will both need you to be there to support them. We all make our mistakes and we all need support and love, especially during the difficult times. I think that you should let them know that this is hurting you too and that you love them and would like for them to see if there is anything they can do to keep your family together. It sounds like your dad's drinking problem has forced your mother to be the adult in the household. That would make anyone a little controlling. When there is a big problem like that in a family, people do argue about little things to avoid the real issue. The only thing I can suggest is that you pray to God to point you and your parents in the right direction. In the meantime, going out and getting drunk is no way for you to handle the situation or even escape it. You should see in your household that abusing alcohol is never the answer. Besides, you are genetically predisposed to alcoholism - best to avoid it. All you can do is pray, hope for the best, ask for your parent's help in coping and be supportive of them as well.
2007-08-02 15:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray for them both. Love the Eucharist, offer sufferings up for them.
Whichever parent is more reasonable, talk to them. If he(generic term) will listen ask if there's anything else they can do to salvage the marriage. Ask them to meet with a priest.
There's a chance that an element of Holy Matrimony was missing, so they need to look into getting an annulment. It isn't a 'Catholic divorce', but an examination to see if the marriage was ever valid in God's eyes.
Remember that people aren't perfect, don't take this out of God. Give your sufferings to Mary. She knows where they can be put to the best use.
2007-08-02 15:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by lawlzlawlzduck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all remember it's your parents getting the divorce not you and you can not change it nor did you do anything to make it happen. Second talk to them and tell them how it is effecting you and maybe get help for yourself see a psychiatrist or someone along them lines. Also you say your father is an alcoholic I would really watch how much you drink because it's hereditary so just be careful drinking too much. I know people who have been through this and have followed their alcoholic parent and have become an alcoholic them self.
2007-08-02 15:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by lilli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well getting drunk is not the answer. You could have a sit down talk with your mom and dad together and explain your feelings and how upseting the situation is to you.. Tell them that you love them both and want them to work out their problems
2007-08-02 15:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by xjoizey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, the only thing you can do is to pray to God. If it's in His will and in His plan, then you'll soon find out that whatever the outcome is will be for the best. Whatever happens, DO NOT LOSE YOUR FAITH IN HIM. If your parents to divorce, it may be a difficult time for you--right when you need Him the most. Don't turn him down--stay with him throughout the entire matter. I will pray for you!!!
2007-08-02 15:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by . .... ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey first be good to yourself, please don't get drunk again over your parents, you don't want to end up drinking a lot like your Dad right? You will end up feeling even worse!
Say :God help me through this difficult time and help my parents make the right decision, I leave it in your hands lord"
I was wondering ask your parents if they would be willing to go to marriage counseling, and if not I want you to go cause it is taking a toll on you. Please have your parents look in the yellow pages under family counseling services or mental health services, if they don' have insurance they go by a sliding fee scale on what they can afford to pay,
Best of luck to you!
2007-08-02 17:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Hmmm... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is start praying for your parents every day. Try to get them to see a counselor and tell them how much it is bothering you.
The one thing you don't want to do is take any of their problems on yourself.
Make sure you have asked Jesus into your heart as Lord and Savior and since you said you are Catholic, talk to your local Priest and share your feelings with him. That's what he is there for.
I will be praying for you also.
2007-08-02 15:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by LeeBoy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be strong. I know how hard this is. But, that which does not kill you will make you stronger. And, it will make you one day be able to help other people in the same position as you are in now. It's difficult to give you the help you need over the internet. Find a support group where you can talk to people face-to-face. Good luck.
2007-08-02 15:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read the Bible and pray. I can say that prayer works and God has always come through for me. I suggest reading the Book of Romans. It's awesome that you are concerned about this. My parents divorced when I was in 6th grade, and it still affects me to this day. Talk to your parents.. one by one, together... whatever works. And express to them how much you want them to work it out. Be completely honest, because you'll regret not saying anything if it's weighing heavily on your heart.
2007-08-02 15:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by Marian G 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could kind of threaten them (not physically). You could tell them that its going to make you fail all your classes miserably because you won't be focused, or tell them that you won't try if they get a divorce. Then ask them what is more important; them divorcing and you suffering, or them staying together and you doing fine? Give them plenty of examples of the bad things that could happen if they divorce. Also, you could somehow get them on the religious level and suggest why they shouldn't get a divorce. Good luck!
If some people are telling you to stay out of it, and that is isn't your problem, I disagree, because it could very well be your problem in the future, so it IS your business. Hopefully your parents can work something out.
2007-08-02 15:20:50 · answer #10 · answered by Omer 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋