I recently was invited to a bridal shower for one of my friends and there was a card with directions to the place and listed where they were registered. Do I give my gift at the bridal shower or at the wedding? Or should I give one at both?
2007-08-02 14:58:51 · 20 answers · asked by jlg_jdf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The bridal shower is for the bride.....so buy something for her.........and the wedding gift should be for the both of them!!
2007-08-02 15:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by ask me a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The gift is for the bridal shower, people usually give them a card with money the day of the wedding but the shower gift is enough
2007-08-02 15:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Dominguez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You give what you can comfotably afford. Usually people will give a gift at both. The shower gift should be the smaller of the two and the wedding gift the more expensive one, or you can pitch in with other shower guests to buy the bride one big expensive gift from several people. I know traditionally with my family you get boxed gifts at showers and then people just bring cash to the wedding.
If for some reason you can't afford to give two gifts you would wait until the wedding to give your gift.
2007-08-02 15:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are suppose to give both.
Each event is a separate one. I believe anytime you are invited to an event, especially were you are being fed, you should give a gift.
At the shower, give off of the registry. At the wedding, give a card w/ cash or check.
I think it's really rude not to give a gift at a wedding, regardless if you gave one at the shower.
At the wedding, the bride and groom is going above and beyond to accommodate you and feed you. It's just rude NOT to give a gift. I'm not saying this from a bride's standpoint. But, from a guests.
I have always been taught, you should bring a gift when invited to a party of any kind. Even if you get invited to someones house for dinner, you bring a dessert, a bottle a wine or a plant.
So, YES. Give at both the shower and wedding.
2007-08-02 15:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of people will tell you it's proper etiquette to give a gift at both because the shower gift is for things for the bride and the wedding gift is for things for the couple, or because the shower and the wedding are two different events. This, however, is not the case. The COUPLE are the ones who registered for the gifts so it makes no sense that one gift be given directly to the bride and one be given for the couple. Also, yes, these are two separate events BUT the gifts are for the same purpose! Of course, you may give two gifts if you like, just know that you don't HAVE to do it.
Now, if the bride's shower is lingerie themed or something like that, then yes you give two gifts: one for the bride and one for the couple. The couple themselves have not "registered" for the lingerie, only the bride.
Good luck!
2007-08-02 15:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are invited to the shower, you are considered a close friend, and you should give a gift at the shower and at the wedding.
Give money or a gift card at the wedding. That is always appreciated! But for the shower, pick something fun to open--it doesn't have to cost a fortune. Theme gifts are always nice. You can choose something from the registry, such as a pasta bowl set, then add items to go with it (your favorite pasta recipe, a few jars of herbs, a bottle of wine).
Make it fun and personal.
2007-08-02 15:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by tea4twoholiday 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bridal shower: yes
Wedding: no
Bridal showers are to "shower" the bride with gifts, so gifts IMO are required.
Weddings are never required to bring a gift, but it really is personal preference.
So you could give one at the bridal shower and none at the wedding, or one at the bridal shower and wedding. Its your choice.
2007-08-03 03:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For both. So you buy one gift and take it to the bridal shower and another gift for the wedding
2007-08-02 15:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You give a gift at both the shower and wedding.
2007-08-02 15:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both. I would spend more money on the wedding present than the shower.
At my wedding shower some friends pitched in...the filled a laundry basket with laundry soap, dryer sheets and some cooking utinsils. It was a thoughtful gift.
2007-08-03 01:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋