i love her very much.... i am from india.... i know tat we are not supposed to hurt our parents feelings... here in india most of the love marriages are done by running away from home.. we don't intendt to do so.... i am working part time in a software company and she has finished her schooling and is doing college.... i am very much involved in ministry has much as she is... she is very prayerfull... but i want to know is it right.... plz help me out here
2007-08-02 14:11:46 · 14 answers · asked by rajabraham 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Loving other people is never a sin, just make sure it's love and not lust. If your parents doesn't want you to love her and doesn't want her a daughter-in-law, all you can do is pray to God and wait for His answer. Pray that your parents might learn to accept your decision on who to love. It's better to have someone you love than forcing yourself to love someone you don't really love.
But again, also pray to God and ask Him if she is the right girl for you.. Ask to give you a sign if she is the girl God sent you to be your wife.
But don't rush things out. She is still studying, so wait for her to finish college. In the mean time, save money and get yourself ready for marriage if she is really the girl for you. Don't forget to pray to God about the problems with your parents.
Continue on serving God.
2007-08-02 14:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by sabog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If loving someone is a sin, then God is sin. There is nothing wrong in loving, unless if u'r lusting. It's just sometimes love doesn't necessarily come in physical form either. Perhaps you should talk to your parents about this, ask their permission and blessings to choose your own partner for life. If they refuse then do ur best to reason out with them while at the same time consider where they come from. The more you hide it from ur parents, the more reasons they would have to oppose your personal decision in this. So good luck with that.
2007-08-02 14:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by Emo-c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not aware of the customs in India, but love is never wrong. Unless there is some kind of punishment you are not willing to endure, GO FOR IT!!
2007-08-02 14:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Shortie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may seem cliche, but pray about it. God can work things out that would seem otherwise impossible. If truly He wants you with her, then God will work it out. It is not wrong to love her so long as in your love of her you are not sleeping together or anything else that is sexually impure.
2007-08-02 14:15:47 · answer #4 · answered by J.R. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, Love is NEVER wrong! You should obey your parents, however, so if they are against the union of you and her, then it is wrong only in that aspect! Sorry, if you were here in America, you could choose whomever you wanted to love. Follow your heart in this matter.
2007-08-02 14:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by Sgt Little Keefe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was told by a girl from India that the times had changed and you can marry whom you want. You telling me she's lying to me!
2007-08-02 14:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not living in your parents house then you are no longer under their authority. Honoring your mother and father does not mean submitting to commands that are not Scriptural when you are old enough to live on your own.
Colossians 3:11 Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all.
2007-08-02 14:20:58 · answer #7 · answered by Martin S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love can never be a sin!!
I think that you both should pray for the matter and try convincing your parents then!
2007-08-02 14:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by The born-again christian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your patents about her, bring her home to meet, give them her picture. Tell them you want to marry her. But under no circumstances you should hurt your parents. Your mom carried you for nine months, nurtured, probably nursed you, its your time to return that. Your Bhagwan/Jesus/Allah will not like it if you stray.
Would be nice if you had mentioned your age
2007-08-02 14:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by Wise J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a sin;love and honor your parents but please understand that having a diffent viewpoint and outlook on life is not disrespect or dishonor. To deny what is in your heart is a sin.
2007-08-02 14:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by tesorotx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋