Regarding sex before marriage, what is your opinion? I chose to wait until marriage (not for religious reasons or anything, just a personal choice), but the thing is, I wonder if, at some point down the line in the marriage, I might start to get resentful of the fact that I never got any other experience, you know? I don't disapprove of sex before marriage by a looooong shot!! Lol, it was just a personal preference.
I guess what I'm trying to say is do you think it's a good idea? Is there anyone on here who did this?
Maybe just waiting to be in love again would be more appropriate? At the moment I stand by my decision, but I guess I'm asking for opinions, from personal experience or not. But only serious answers please. Thanks. =)
2007-08-02 13:22:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wish I had waited - I think it would be special to learn about it with the person I love and have chosen to build a life with.
2007-08-02 13:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As anyone married for 50 years will tell you, there is more to a marriage than sex. Clearly, you made the decision to marry for reasons other than sex; so who you may or may not have had sex with, and what that sex would be like is now a moot point. Dwelling on the 'grass is greener' can only lead to discontent. If your reasons for marriage are still valid focus on that instead. There's an old saying,
"When you focus on the many flowers in the field, you do not miss the one flower you do not have."
Besides, sex is always better with emotional closeness, the willingness to please (and find new ways of pleasing) one's partner, and when there is a commitment and good communication. Some people may be 'natural lovers,' but IMHO, a 'great' lover is made and is specifically tailored to you.
2007-08-02 13:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by No. 6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should have sex when u feel that the person is right 4 u. Marriage isn't 4 everyone. It's not about your morals when it comes to love, because sometimes u have to step out of yourself. I haven't had sex yet and I'm 18, but it's not about waiting til marriage. 4 me it's about how I feel about the person. If u want 2 wait until marriage that is good 2, but it's not that serious 2 me.
2007-08-02 13:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by DetroitFynest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having doubts you should definitely revisit the issue. The first thing you should consider is how you will feel if you do not wait. Will you be disappointed in yourself or feel bad? Then wait. I personally did not wait and I am glad. I have learned from my experience how important a good sex life is to me. I was in a relationship that was missing something and I didn't realize what was wrong until I was with my current man. I do think you should wait until you are an adult. Teenagers (most not all) are not emotionally equipped to understand the difference between love and sex.
2007-08-02 13:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by always an opinion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not experimenting with premarital sex can lead to myriad problems once you are married. Besides the fact that you have already pointed out, which is one of the disadvantages of celibacy until marriage, you run the very likely risk of being totally disappointed with your performance and that of your spouse. How do you plan to deal with the fact that you might marry a sex-fiend, a terrible lover, an inconsiderate sexist pig, or a man who is impotent? I am a firm believer that an once of prevention in better than a pound of cure. What has caused you to opt for this attitude out of personal preference? Is it moral, social, religious or....?
2007-08-02 13:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by SexRexRx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IN my opinion I would have sex with the right person you would feel comfortable with wether it is before marrying or not. Personally, I probably wouldn't be able to wait until marriage but I had heard of people that are planned to do that but didn;t make it.
2007-08-02 13:27:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wait, I don't think you will feel resentful, especially if you have had friends that have gotten hurt from having sex and then being dumped. You wouldn't have to regret anything. My mother told me that she regretted not saving herself for my dad.
Even though I'm religious, I'm not quite sure where I stand. I want to wait until I'm out of high school at least, and just find someone I'm absolutely in love with to share it with. STD's scare me too, and I don't even want to mess around with that.
2007-08-02 13:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by sarboo3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beleive that there has to be a physical chemistry between two people for a relationship to work out. I don't just go sleeping around, but I do have sex. I love my boyfriend and I think It's good to figure out if you have the chemistry before you commit.
2007-08-02 13:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire your decision. It shows a level of maturity and level headed thinking sorely lacking in today's society. You deserve a standing ovation.
There is a school of thought that says that premarital sex is good because it gives the couples experience so when they are ready to settle down they have the knowledge and experience to please their mates......
HorsePuckey.
Go out, buy the Kama Sutra, and learn together.
2007-08-02 13:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by Eric C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm for sex before marriage only if both people love each other only and it's real love!
2007-08-02 13:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by Omar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋