I recently had sex with a guy, it was a one night stand and he was a virgin and i told him i was but i really wasn't, we went over to his place because no one was home, i obviously realized he hadn't lied, he was new to everything, and i thought i was too because this was about to be my second time(i only did it once and it was since january)so i thought i was going to freak out about everything, but it went smoothly. We did use protection, but i noticed something i was afraid to ask, he uhhh was having trouble, you know, staying hard. I'll admit, i enjoyed it and acidentally went crazy with him because it felt sooo good, but after i guess 30min into it, we stopped because it had gone down, and i continued to try to turn him on thinking it was me he wasn't happy with, but he kept getting hard and then soft again, so i ignored it and went on with it, and we lasted for way over an hour. (is that good by the way?) but with the same thing (hard then soft). Was it me or was it him?
2007-08-02 12:45:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
for his first time its to be expected...he was excited but also in the back of his mind thinking about the moment so much its distracted him from the moment....but it sounded like a good time for both....smart choice to use protection.
2007-08-02 12:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it was his first time. Which is rare these days. He was probably nervous, and you may have been judging him by your first experience. He could have been worried that some body might come home and catch you. Moods are very important. You said it felt good. Why not try again, second time round he could be feeling much more confident about himself.
2007-08-02 12:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was probably distracted at times....trying to figure out what you were trying to do? .
The first time, it should be all about holding, kissing, touching for a very long time.....if you did not do this.......then i guess he was distracted with all the different moves you might have been trying to do. Too long as far as i know for the first time. Unless you were both taking your time enjoying the touching, feeling, kissing and hugging...
2007-08-02 12:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by ttwobearsplusone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definatly him! The only reason I could see it being you was if you were doing something that was turning him off...like making weird noises or just being nasty. I have never had that happen personally but he probably was self conscious and scared. Ive heard that guys are that way their first time. Maybe his next time he wont be so scared.
2007-08-02 12:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by TJade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An hour? Impressive...young guys especially tend to go off like a bottle rocket...sounds like he'll be back for more more...sweet, really...
2007-08-02 12:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him. And I'd have to echo what "The Strong and Silent Type" said about your partner's performance having to do with nervousness.
2007-08-02 12:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cam in you!!! It was not you or him, well you I would say and not in a bad way.. You must of been really good in bed(or not ,it was his first time so I think he just cam faster then you.) I'd take a test if I were you... Not good, not good at all, well that is if you don't want a baby! hope your not pregnant and good luck to you, be a little more careful next time...
2007-08-02 12:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by t_seks1 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its was him he was just a lil scared seeing that it was his first time but i think if it lasted an hour he enjoyed it just as much as u did good luck!!!!!!!!
2007-08-02 12:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't stimulate the guy enough, it goes down. So you're both to blame. It's your job to keep him hard and his job to keep it up, which both are possible.
2007-08-02 12:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by Omar 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you gotta try the first guy who answered you. LoL
2007-08-02 12:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋