What do you think?

Question

I met someone else when I still was technically involved with another. It turned into a romantic relationship.
I fell in love with this her while i still had feelings for the 1st one.
I lied to both, lied to the 1st one - well that is obvious, I had to make time to see the 2nd, lied bout where I was at, being at work, going to the store, phone calls... Everything.
All the while telling the 2nd that I love her and that I am going to leave the 1st one, that there was no longer an intimate relationship there and that 2nd was was indeed my true love.
But when I got busted (3 times, yes I went back to the 2nd one twice) I never tell the 1st one I dont want to be with her, I turn my back on the 2nd one everytime. Even tho I cant leave her alone, think about her all the time. She has asked me to no longer contact her until the 1st one is TOTALLY out of the picture and that after a while she is going to write me off totally.
What do I do...What do you think of the situation?

Answer 1

1st you've lied many times to both and now both probably don't trust you
2nd now you must decide what you want and how makes you happy but remember now your playing with other peoples emotions
3rd after you decide which one you want, then you have to build up their trust (a leopard doesn't change its spots)
4th the first one as you call her has taken you back 3 times (this girl must really love you or has no self-confidence)

you have a lot to deal with and what happens if the girl you choose to be with, does the same thing to you, will you take her back with no questions asked. everything you do today will effect your future, really think before you do anything

Answer 2

You little player, you. The best thing you can do, Is think about the qualities of each person. From everything to how they act, dress, everything. Put it into perspective which you like more - then it will make the decision easier for you.

Sometimes we really think we want someone, then to find out that we had the right person all along. It's a very complicated process, but it works.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Hey i get to answer the same question twice (my friend).
But if it were me and i loved the 2nd one dearly i would end it with the first one. Or i would look at which of the two could help me or i could help if i was some how in trouble. Maybe even look in to future things and c which shows a better future.

Answer 4

I think you made a huge mistake in what you did. You took the cowards way out. It takes courage to do the right thing. Time for you to do some soul searching and shape up. If I was them I would have nothing to do with you. You are not trustworthy. Now let's see what kind of character you have.

Answer 5

this is so dang confusing.
girl u screwed up big time, dishonesty is haunting you now. you have to be honest wit both of them tell them who u want to be with and try to be friends with the other. but if you feel that u might start having feelings for them while just being friends than dont be friends. honestly this is a personal matter that you have to think about on ur own, and what u think morally is right!

Answer 6

I think both of them should kick your a** up to your ears.

Leave them both, it's obvious that you don't care for either one of them, you are lying to both of them, cheating on both of them, and keep begging for forgiveness.

Leave the m both alone and go find someone else, do you think at this point, EITHER of them will trust you again?

Answer 7

you should leave her alone since you have no interest in her anymore, plus it will give the 1st a chance to recover from the heartbreak sooner.

Answer 8

you must find out the one you want or your still young have fun as long you aren't hurting anyone, get rid of ya serious relationships and have fun & be safe

Answer 9

u r just as bad as my ex. u need to make up ur mind who comes first in ur life and stick with it. make up ur ******* mind and get do it. stop playing with their hearts and hurting them u stupid *****.