Ok im 17 and everytime I go out with a guy I kinda get freaked out and break up with him becuase I dont think they are christian enough for me and get scared that I'm going to lose my complete focus on God. I have been going out with a guy for like 3 days and he is a christian just he isnt really into it like I am and so now I want to break up with him. Do you think Im going to far with this and need to just relax a little or what please let me know and please be nice about it..
2007-08-02 12:00:28 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Ask him whether he is willing to keep God as number 1 in the relationship. And what his answer is should help you out in your decision. God Bless.
In Jesus Name
EDIT: Don't listen to the atheists in the house. God will reward you for the faithfulness that you show at your age. I too am 17, and I know that I can't stand seeing where most of today's youth is going. I am thankful that there is a remnant left that still serve the Lord.
2007-08-02 12:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by Joel 2 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Im sorry to say that ur are going to far with it. You just need to relax. You sound like a nice girl, my sis is a christian and she used to be a bit of the same but now she is married to another christian and to tell u the truth he really isnt into the whole christian thing but i knew he loved her and would never do anything to let her down. So this tells you that even though u think he is not into the whole christian thing, i bet he loves u with all his heart. Just talk to him but i think u are going a bit too far by dumping him because of this.
2007-08-02 19:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by DAVY O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I need to preface this answer with the statement that I am not Christian, so my advice is about what I think is right for YOU, not what would be right for me.
I get the impression that your priority at this time is your spirituality, and that your desire for a boyfriend is more social pressure than a true desire to find a mate. You are young. You have PLENTY of time to fall in love and marry and raise children. Since your calling at this time is your faith, focus on that now.
I think you may have jumped the gun a bit calling him your boyfriend if you've only been going out for 3 days. My advice is simple here... if you want to "break up", then do so now as gently as possible.
Bright blessings.
2007-08-02 19:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by C J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything happens for a reason...right?? Well maybe God wants you to be together so that you can draw him closer to God. If he cares about you he'll go to church with you but change takes time. Pray about it. Just take it easy on him and don't pressure him, that might push him farther away. Encourage the word of God in his life, bring up the topic sometimes, say something like oh guess what God did for me today. Tell him how wonderful God is and maybe he'll become more interested. I'm not quite 17 but am in about the same boat as you, except well its a little different, so I understand. I respect the faithfulness you show, in every way.
Good luck, and God Bless You
2007-08-02 19:09:38 · answer #4 · answered by m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you are looking for someone to marry then dating a boy who is unequally yolked is a problem but if you are just dating this boy for someone to go to the movies with on Friday night then I think you can calm down. If you are scared you are going to loose your focus on God then the issue is with you not the boy. You need to learn how to be in a relationship with out being completely consumed with it. So relax and take it slowly if you feel like your emotions are moving too fast then take a step back and pray about it. God Bless!
2007-08-02 19:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by jahvar's mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go to any extremes yet, but there is one thing to consider if you are really that worried about it.... have you considered dedicating yourself to your god completely? like joining the clergy? I'm not a Christian, but I grew up in a Christian family so I know that you are taught that he is a forgiving god.... maybe you should look to see the goodness in them & not expect them to be perfect. Remember, a lot of people don't find their faith until later in life. If you really feel that you are called to have a romantic partnership then relax for a while, you aren't too young to have boyfriends, but you are too young to worry about then lasting.... If you are still having this problem when you're 30 then you can worry
2007-08-02 19:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by dolthara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax a lot, and quit expecting that everybody will meet your expectations. You'll never get anywhere that way. You wanna know what I suggest? When you're dating someone remove religion completely out of your mind. In fact you should probably think about religion only like twice a year - on Christmas and Easter. After you've gotten used to not thinking about religion, go date a complete atheist and be happy with him, alright? You're sort of like my sister, she's 5 and every time we buy something for her, she wants it to be pink. Not purple, or any other color similar to pink, but pure pink. And now our whole house is pink. Once there was a little toy that she wanted, but the one that was pink was broken a little bit, and then there was this purple one that was fine, but she still wanted the pink one.
2007-08-02 19:25:31 · answer #7 · answered by Maus 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay well i can kindof see your problem becuase my guess is you really religious. Im not being mean when i say this but it would be best if you chill out a little abotu how religious he is becuase he could be the guy of your dreams and you dont want to dump him over how religious he is. So just dont let his religious belifes bother you and like him for who he is not what he believes in. I hope i helped!!
2007-08-02 19:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by sweetstyle4444 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are going a little far with it, Most people around your age have not yet found what they will believe in the rest of their life. Be more accepting, Know that the divine loves everyone and will not outcast your boyfriend for not believing as strong as you do. I love my girlfriend to death and we have different beliefs with an open mind love does not have to be flavored with the same religion.
2007-08-02 19:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by infinite2678 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God shouldn't be your whole focus in life- that is unhealthy and obsessive. There should be balance. Maybe you just aren't ready for a real relationship yet and are making excuses. BTW- some of the best and kindest boyfriends I've ever had were not christian.
2007-08-02 19:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by europa312 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋