How to handle wedding crashers?

Question

People came to the reception, uninvited..

These were people known to the bride or groom who came with guests without being invited.

Answer 1

The same thing happened at my sister's wedding.

Because she had a last minute cancellation due to sickness of an invited guest, she decided to say nothing on the day.

However, after the wedding she spoke to them and they said they had felt they should have been invited, as she had attended a family wedding of theirs a little while before.

She explained that in our culture it is not common to have a wedding with 400 guests unless you can afford it (she and her hubby couldn't).

It was just a mix up and every one got over it, but she also no longer attends anything organised by those people although they do still invite her, she always has a polite excuse.

As a general rule, however, gate crashers can always be asked to leave, and if necessary escorted out.

Unfortunately in this day and age, the disruption the gatecrashers may cause has to be weighed up against the enjoyment of the party.

If the host feels it would be less disruptive to allow them to stay, they may choose to do so.

It's a shame, but it is one reason many more people are having their functions at formal function centres ~ to prevent just this type of behaviour.

Best wishes ! :-)

Answer 2

To handle that problem you need to plan ahead.

First, make your invitations clear. If you consider weddings are a good thing, then you should not invite guests in such a manner as to force them to be solo.

MR and MRS John Doe. (If married)

MR John Doe and guest (if single)

MS Jane Doe and guest (if single)

Never send an invitation out forcing someone to come alone.
They may choose to come alone but do not force them to come alone.

Second, once they RSVP that they are coming, plan for that number. Do not assume unexpected guests will show up as that is extremely rude.

Third, set up table arrangements with a chart at the door or name tags at the door indicating where people should sit. Make a clear note on the chart or near the name tags saying "Please do not switch seats or tables."

If by some happenstance some incredible rude person shows up with an uninvited (not RSVPed) guest, they will realize their name is not on the list and there is no seat indicated for them. They will either leave or have to ask about seating.

Now for the important step. You need someone to watch stuff and make sure it goes OK. IE: The best man should be taking care of stuff like this so the bride and groom do not have to worry about it.

As rude as it is to show up without having RSVPed, it is even ruder to say you are coming and then not show up. Unfortunately people do that. Tell the person who brought the unexpected guest they will have to wait to be seated until all the invited guests are seated. If a seat is available, their guest may take one. If not, then that person is out of luck. Do NOT let them go into the room and start switching seats prior to the seating of the guests on the list.

By having a clear seating chart without a lot of extra seats available, crashers will find they stick out like a sore thumb. If you "plan" on having crashers you can bet they will show up and move right in

Answer 3

Were they strangers who came for free food, people you knew who weren't invited, guests that never RSVP'd, or extra companions of those who were invited?

For strangers or people I knew but who weren't invited, I would simply ask them to leave. I would remind them that weddings operate on a budget and are not a free buffet. I would escort them out myself.

For those who didn't RSVP or those who RSVP'd but brought more guests than they listed, I would also remind them that weddings operate on a tight budget. I wouldn't want to cause a scene for the wedded couple, but remind them that guest lists exist for a reason. If it was a formal sit-down meal, they might not have any place to sit without moving a bunch of people. If it's more casual, I still would have paid the catering costs by the person, so I'd be pissed.

If it's something like they brought kids b/c the babysitter cancelled, I might be more forgiving.

Answer 4

If it happened, then it is over. If you expect it, then make it clear by invitation only, and card people at the door. Usually guests are allowed to bring one person, so it needs to be clear that only invited can come.

Answer 5

For the main area a caterer, adventure center or reception internet site would propose which you over estimate your head count kind by ability of approximately 20-25 human beings, some will eat extra then others and then some human beings will take place who did no longer RSVP. often times it would desire to be (yet no longer likely) possibly they DID deliver back their RSVP and it replaced into lost interior the mail or something. Or it would desire to be they'd have not rsvp'ed by using fact they thought they'd be out of city on the day. each reception I unquestionably have been to the uninvited/un-rsvp'ed travellers have been invited in and not making use of a altercation. i think of the bouncer is over doing it somewhat.

Answer 6

Ask them to leave because they were not invited and if they don't want to leave call security and explain the situation ; )

Answer 7

Ask them politely to leave. If they fail to respond to that, call the police to have them removed.

Answer 8

get guards and guest on list only

Answer 9

kick in the balls

Answer 10

just have fun with them