2007-08-02 11:11:47 · 15 answers · asked by passionflower2k5 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Of course you don't want to go. But you must. It's part of business and making connections.
Here's a great way to show up without staying all night: Leave your coat, purse, etc. in your car. Keep just your car key in your pocket. Get a drink at the reception, and quickly put in face time with all the important people - the bride and groom, your boss, other coworkers, etc. Always have your back to the door so it doesn't look like you're trying to leave. Say hello, congrats, beautiful wedding, then chew the fat for a moment before moving on to the next. Then, as you near the door, leave without saying anything or drawing attention to yourself. By this time they'l l be doing first dances and cake cutting and no one will notice you've left.
2007-08-02 11:17:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not know and are not friends with the daughter then you were invited due to your business relationship with your boss. Your presence or absence will not add or detract to the happiness of the daughter as she probably will not even notice.
The best way to handle it is to return the RSVP card saying you regretfully decline. No explanation is necessary. No present is necessary.
However, if you are friends with the daughter and your boss did not invite everyone at the office, only a select few and you are one of the few, you should consider going as your absence will be noticed by the daughter.
If you do decide to decline in this case, you should send a present anyway to maintain the friendship.
2007-08-03 02:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just send your RSVP back declining the invitation. You are certainly not obligated to attend. As to whether or not you send a gift, it is entirely up to you. Just because the bride is the daughter of your boss it does not mean that you are obligated to attend any more than another invited guest.
2007-08-06 13:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all u ave 2 say is that u dont really want 2 go theres no need to lie send ur best wishes 2 the daughter and maybe even a small gift 2 say thanx 4 the invitation
2007-08-02 18:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just send back the RSVP with "not able to attend" checked off. No explanation needed.
If the boss approaches you about it, you can simply say you have previous plans. The boss doesn't need to know your personal business.
And if you are not going, you DO NOT need to send a gift!
2007-08-02 22:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You don't need to explain yourself. Neither do you need to make up a fake excuse. It's up to you if you feel like going or not, so all you have to say is "sorry I don't think I'll be able to make it that day. Thanks so much for inviting me though, I really appreciate it. Give her my best!" If your boss gets offended by that, he is neurotic, and it's not a reflection on you.
2007-08-02 18:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't explain yourself, just send the card with your regrets. No gift needed. If you're not trying to get "in" with your boss, you don't have to go to his kid's wedding.
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2007-08-02 18:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by Kacky 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
politely decline (in a card) if ur boss asks tell him u had a family event planned he will understand
2007-08-02 19:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't decline, get a sick headache the day of the wedding. Make sure to give an envelope full of money though. Thats all they really want. Ha, ha!
2007-08-02 18:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by Leepal 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Just RSVP that you won't be attending. If you don't know her, don't send a gift. If you do know her, find out where she's registered and send a small gift or a gift certificate to that store.
2007-08-02 18:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by lawgirl_98 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋