I am in my 50's and have a sister close in age who is mean &?

Question

evil to me in every way-what can be done? (She IS my sister.)
I know, I'll get that behavior tape.

Answer 1

i know she's your sis but you can't change her. maybe just walk away from her for a while.

Answer 2

The only way your sister can be mean to you is if you let her. At your age, I think you are past the point where you have to put up with bad behaviour to keep peace in the family.

the next time she is nasty - leave, or hang up the phone, or delete the email. You do not have to let her do whatever she wants.

If she wants to know why you left .... etc - tell her that it is not good for your health to have to listen to her when she is being negative. And keep doing it.

You do not have to tolerate bad behaviour at the expense of your own peace of mind. You are worth more than that.

Answer 3

I can totally relate with you, and I feel your pain. I recently turned 50, and my sister and I haven't talked for over 17 years. We were never close because of our age difference, she's 8 years younger than I am. She was jealous when I had my first child (she was only 13) She had 2 best friends in school, and I eventually married her friends brother. She got mad at me because her friends were coming to my house. On her birthday, I took my bill money, and threw a nice party for her, including a sleep over. Of course, I invited her 2 friends. Well, needless to say, she got totally pissed at me for inviting her friends. When she went to the hospital, for trying to commit suicide, I made a doll for her, and took it to her. While I was there, she acted like everything was fine. Later, I was told that she ripped the doll apart. She married her ex-son-in-law, and worships the ground he walks on. He treats her like dirt, runs around on her. She gets very offensive when anyone says anything about him. She has tried to commit suicide 3 times over him. Confiding in her, I told her a family secret. The next day, she blurted it to everyone. This caused my mom and I not to speak for over a year. I got tired of being hurt, and I just moved away. She still continues to talk about me, but at least now we can't argue. Some people will never change. They need to go thru life making other peoples lives miserable. She is my only sister, and it hurts me that we can't have a relationship, but I've come to realize I'm better off without her in my life. I hope that you and your sister can become friends. Once they're gone, we can't bring them back. Good luck.