I am still greiving over my friends death its complete agony, I cry everyday and its been almost a year which?

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it dosent seem like it. How Do I stop letting this get to me and go on with my life I am so depressed I dont want to do anything.All I do is drive myself crazy asking god why her?

Yes I am on medication but its a coverup and dosent help anymore. I am 26years old.

and the thing is they say they dont know why she died thats why I feel like I have no closure they said it was a sudden unexplained death is that even possible or the family dosent want to tell me you think??

Answer 1

Jennifer,

I lost my best friend from college last year. We were best buds for many years. I still am having trouble dealing with his death. I think part of the problem was it was such a sudden death it kind of hit me like a ton of bricks. From time to time, I still find myself picking up the phone to give him a call to go out on the town.

Grief is a different experience for everybody. Some people can deal with death without it even causing them to blink, then at the other end of the spectrum you can find people like us. We just seem to take the loss harder than others.

How do we get by this event, and get on whith our lives... Sadly, I don't have a good answer for that one. All we can do is try to heep our friends in our hearts, and know that someday we will see them again. I am not one to ever push religious beliefs on anybody, but our friends really are in a better place. We need not grieve for them, we should be happy for them.

We can ask God why until we are blue in the face, let's face it, he is not going to answer us. It really is not our place to question his master plan for us. All we can do is go on with our lives remembering our friends in more happy times. Stop dwelling on the sad times, and think back to some of the better memories we all had. You don't need to ever forget your friend, what you can do is now think of your friend as a Guardian Angel. As long as you can keep their memory alive in your heart, they will never be far from you.

If I could, I would like to just reach through the screen and give you a big hug. Things will get easier. I promise they will.

Take care, and may God bless you.

Answer 2

Well, you have to realize we are not here forever and I know you don't want to hear that because you have already, but it true. Let go, this is what your friend would have wanted for you to do. Don't keep asking God why, because the answer can be in your face, but the way you are dealing with things you would not see. What you need to be asking God is to show you and help you to get through this. And then maybe you will get your answer. We are all passing through and some of us will make a great impact on people and we have to except when they leave us. Pray and ask God to help you get through this sad time in your life and He will.

Answer 3

Time heals, sweetie. The problem is that you sound like you've given yourself a cut-off date, and grief just doesn't work like that. You said that it's almost been a year - that means at least 10 months, right? It's all still so soon and fresh - and you're allowed to feel and express pain. Cry until you cannot cry anymore. A support group can also put you in contact with those going through the same feelings of grief.

And of course you're going to be angry with God - He expects that right now, and is understanding and loving and will wait this out with you.

Please accept my condolences for your loss.

Answer 4

well their is a such thing as instantaneous combustion. means burned up in a flame within a split second. although i doubt that happened you asked. yes its possible. also why drown in sorrow truly i don't understand what the point is in crying and being upset over it because death isn't a bad thing. its part of life. and you may have lost someone close to you although i have never experienced this but they say they will always live in your heart. but crying about it isn't going to get you anywhere. i don't know if it will make you feel better or not but i wouldn't say to forget about it try to accept it. what don't kill us only makes us stronger. their will be a tomorrow and the world doesn't stop turning. so either put your mind to something productive that will help you lose focus on that particular thought or think i'm alive and would my friend want me crying for the rest of my life over her death. so i hope helped if not sorry and sorry about your friend.

Answer 5

Do consider going to a Grief Counselor.
Any of the mortuaries or County Mental Health centers can put you in touch with someone well experienced in helping
people who are "stuck" in their grief to be able to progress through the process of healing.

This is something that just happens to some of us. And we need a little help.

Answer 6

Maybe at a time like this, when we can't understand why things happen.. when we don't know what to do with ourselves anymore.. maybe the best thing you can do is turn your life and your troubles over to God, someone who is better equipped to deal with it than us. He will do the grieving for you. The bible tells us that worrying is not for us to do, give the Lord your troubles and he will bring you through. A wise woman once told me, 'If He will lead you to it, He will lead you through it'. I think it may be time for you to stop trying to figure out why, to stop questioning Him, and let Him lead you. I will pray for you and the family of your lost loved one. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 7

i cant really feel your pain and i am so sorry, all i have lost is my favored dog.
i had the same feelings why my dog? why?
but it got better, i cried for months and gradually it got easier to get over her
but i havent lost a friend or family member but if i have i would still be in total pain..try therapy
talking to complete stangers sometimes helps with anything
depression, loss, and all that

Answer 8

From one Jennifer to another, I'm sorry about your friend. You should go on a medicine for depression. I'm not sure how old you are so if you are a child, ask your parents about it. Tell them you need someone to talk to. Maybe they could take you to a psychologist so you can empty your feelings.

Answer 9

You need to get into a grief counseling group where you can find support from people who are where you are at.

Answer 10

jennifer i lost someone who was very dear to me. please check out some grieve counseling. it can really help. and dont beat yourself up for still feeling sad. you miss her and thats ok. there is no timeline for grief. ask you doctor about a counselor and it will help you. good luck.