i have spent soooooooooooo much money on my friends wedding i understand that im a bridesmaid and thats how it is but she is making us pay for the most rediculos things...i bought my dress shoes hair thingy braclet earrings...now she wants us to pay for 5$ ribbon for our dresses last min. shouldnt she just buy them or am i being dumb. o and we HAVE to get our Nails done and HAVE to get our hair done and places she picked which or waaaaaaaaay to expensive...
2007-08-02 10:56:27 · 8 answers · asked by lovely 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
she is also a bridezilla so i could be angry about that and taking it out in silly things she does now...
2007-08-02 11:03:53 · update #1
i cant back out the wedding is next week, i calculated it and ive spent 400 for this wedding is that normal? keep in mind i got stuck planning her bach party becuase her MOH sucks and pretty much made me do it or i would look bad in the end and bla bla bla so i had to buy all kinds of crap for that, and her present for that and her wedding shower.
2007-08-02 11:08:01 · update #2
I am a bride to be married in 5 weeks. My girls are paying for their dress and their shoes. I am covering their hair. Nails, I do not care. Make-up, I bought the shade of eye shadow I would like them to wear the rest of make up they can get if the would like. I also got their jewerly for them. It was my gift to them. As for showers and Bachlorette parties thats not up to me. I planned the wedding, they can do the parties (if they want, I do not need them). I know for the bachelorette party my fiancee did give my MOH a credit card to buy things with.
I guess it all depends on the person. I did not want my bridesmaids to feel like they were spending too much. It is my wedding not theirs. It is customary for bridesmaid to buy their dresses and usually shoes. Other than that, it is personal preference. The way I look at it is, If I want them to look a certain way (hair and make-up) and wear certain jewerly then I should get it for them. I invited them to be apart of MY day and they should not have to shell out tons of money unless it is voluntary.
2007-08-02 13:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are dealing with this, as I am currently going through the same thing. When I was married 10 years ago and in other weddings I don't remember brides being like this but in the last couple of years the expectations have really gotten out of hand. I spent $200 on dress, $100 on alterations, $100 on shoes we HAD to wear, $200 on hair and makeup we HAVE to have done, $200 toward the shower (which she did not appreciate) not to mention the $400 for the 2 nights at hotel, wedding gift and complete rudeness and self centered attitude I have had to deal with the last year. This person has shown her true colors as a friend and do not allow anyone to tell you it's stress or any other excuse like that.
2007-08-02 18:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What everyone who agrees to be in a wedding should understand is that it is going to cost you. I know the cost can be unbearable but that is something to consider before agreeing to be in a wedding. If you are unable to afford things make suggestions to the bride such as, "I cannot afford to get my hair done at this salon, would you mind me getting my hair done somewhere else then meeting up with the rest of the party for pictures?"
2007-08-02 18:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the bridesmaids and groomsmen who come to this board and explain that they have been required to spend far more than they had anticipated, and far more than they can afford, to be part of wedding parties just have to be completely honest with the brides and grooms.
Have your hair and nails done in some way that you can afford. You have to be assertive with this girl.
2007-08-02 18:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is customary for the brides family to pay for accommodations if the bridesmaid has traveled from out of town.
The bride usually gifts jewelery for the bridesmaids if there is something specific she wants them to wear.
Also the bride is responsible for hair and nails- if it is NOT optional- if it is optional then the bridesmaid(s) are expected to pay.
2007-08-02 18:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't get your hair and nails done or go to your place of choice. Don't tell her and just show up to the wedding and if she notices just say you didn't have the money for it.
2007-08-02 18:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by Pinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have to pay for your dress, shoes, ribbons, etc. However, she has no right to expect you to use her hair stylist or to have a manicure. She shoulds like a greedy person. I would back out.
2007-08-02 18:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
her wedding dress and gifts for her wedding party and whatever else u want
2007-08-02 18:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by dvcgurl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋