My fiance passed away, I still cannot get over the worst moment in my life so far. I want to wear the ring everyday to feel that he's still with me, but every time when people ask I just want to cry. I am thinking to change the engagement ring to something else like a pendant or right hand ring so that I can wear all the time without being asked. The only concern of changing it to pendant is that I dont want to lose the engrave inside of the band, anyone has good suggestions?
2007-08-02 10:51:50 · 27 answers · asked by tihayo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
maybe you could keep it as a keepsake for your daughter. this is a hard situation, i am praying for you.
2007-08-02 10:54:49 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sorry for your loss, I've been there, too. I wore mine around my neck for a time, and then as a right hand ring. Of course, it helped that mine was not a typical engagement ring. If yours is a typical solitaire, then instead of cutting the setting off, maybe you can add to it. A jeweler should be able to add a stone or two(maybe his birthstone?) and you could then wear on your right hand without so many questions.
Take it from someone who has been there, you will be better in the long run if you don't loose the inscription. The words from him will mean more than the ring! It does get better, though, so hold on. I'm now happily married to a wonderful man. He knows he can't replace my best friend, just helped fill the hole some!
2007-08-02 11:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by jenn_a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reset the diamond into a pendant, and have a different stone set into the band. That way it's not a solitaire, and it can become a right hand ring that you can always wear and you won't lose the inscription.
The new stone could be your favorite, his favorite, his birthstone, or yours. If you find a private jeweler that is really good the cost will be low and they'll know exactly what to do. Instead of going to one of the big stores that are so very expensive for "custom" work.
I hope that you can find the perfect resolution to this. I understand how special it is to you.
2007-08-02 22:37:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd buy a wrap for it--with his birthstone or your birthstone. That will make it look less like an engagement ring and more like a right hand ring--and wear it on the right hand. Just moving it to your right hand still gets all the questions b/c it still looks like an engagement ring (many cultures wear the wedding band on the right)
Or what one of my friends did--she wore it with her wedding band and when asked, told people she was widowed. He was a soldier killed in Iraq. There were no further questions and when people see 2 bands together they know you are taken. Just an engagement ring leads to questions like when did you get engaged, when are you getting married--both rings though...it's in the past, it's over with. No one asks after that.
Eventually you will probably want to take it off and perhaps get it set into a different piece of jewelry, as a memento, but that will be when you are ready to move on and not filled with sorrow. Until then, you wear it b/c your heart is taken, whether he is living or not.
2007-08-02 11:03:06 · answer #4 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take the diamond out of the setting and have it made into a pendant. Have the ring re-set with a gemstone - perhaps the birthstone of your fiance. You will have two beautiful keepsakes from your love - and you will not lose the engraving in the band.
2007-08-06 09:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming it has a center stone.
Make the diamond center stone into a pendant, and put a sapphire or ruby stone in the engagement ring and wear it as a right hand ring. Make 2 pieces of jewelery out of it.
2007-08-02 12:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by no_frills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, please accept my sympathy for the loss of your beloved fiance - very tragic and sad. My advise for the ring would be to do a bit of research and fine a reputable jewelry designer/artist who might be able to reform the ring into a pendant while retaining the engraving and resetting the diamond as a small dangle or pendant. Best of luck to you.
2007-08-02 10:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by Bev B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am really, sincerely, sorry to hear about your loss. You must be devastated! .......My advice is for you to do what you feel is right. Wear your ring any which way you feel, even as still engaged, if you wish. You are still grieving, that is evident. Don`t do anything for a while, until your grief is less acute. Put it on a chain and wear it as a necklace, until you are sure you want to change it. If you alter it now, one day you may wish you had left it original. May God bless you is my sincere prayer.
2007-08-02 11:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by srmm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wear it on your right hand. Then after a while switch it back to your left hand, after everyone will stop asking. Or wear it on your left hand, and if anyone asks say "I still love him, why shouldn't I wear it?"
I am so sorry for your loss :'( But I think it's really sweet that you still want to wear the ring. I think he'd be touched.
2007-08-02 11:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by waterskater 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think wearing it on your right hand is an excellent idea. As you say, you don't want to lose what he engraved inside, and that's what would happen if you turned it into a pendant.
Just slip it onto your right hand and continue to wear it as long as you need or wish to.
My sincere condolences on your loss. Take care of yourself.
2007-08-02 11:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got goose bumps.
Keep it, maybe you can wear it around your neck on a lovely chain.
They may be able to make it into a pendant and try and keep the engraving.
I am so sorry for your loss, I wish you strength and kindness around you.
Keep well
2007-08-02 10:56:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋