We were classmate in college. And we have been dating for several months. When we hanged out, he always kissed me and said : "I love you" and stuffs. However, last week, I called him and he said he was at the party with his friend at the park. I thought he had a party and he did not ask me to go with him. This question is for guys: when you have a party with your friends and you don't want your girlfriend to be around, does that mean that you don't love her and you are ashamed to have her as your girlfriend?
2007-08-02 10:39:26 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO, that means he want to be and hang out with other girls and he really don't need a girlfriend. When you have a boyfriend , he should take you to parties "some times". The reason why I said "some times," is because guys don't give their life and guy friends up for their girlfriends. It is the "silly" girlfriend that do that, you have your own life take yourself to a party and stop waiting on him to do it. He knows he got you, he don't have to respect you and tell you he is not coming around to spend time with you. He even know how your little mind works. Don't get upset with me I'm telling you the way he thinks, get mad st him. Until you show him you are not stupid and not going to sit and wait for him to decide he has time for you, he will never respect you dear. He is meeting girls every time he is at these parties. If you break up with him it won't matter, he got some one ready to take your place. Tell me this, why would you want some one who don't respect you. Are you not good enough for him to take to those stinky parties, YES YOU ARE! and you know what, I feel you are too good for him. Get you some one who will appreciate you for the Jewel you are.
2007-08-02 11:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by BLUE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It can mean that it's a party that's pretty much for guys- and girlfriends were not invited. It's not necessarily a reflection on YOUR relationship with HIM. It just might be a reflection of the situation at hand (a group of guys OR personal family members getting together- for whatever reason). It'd be ok if you asked him how the party went...-but don't make a big deal out of it. Trust is a BIG part of a relationship. :)
2007-08-02 17:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but usually this just means he's not sure how serious he is about you yet. My bf and I have been together for over a year now and it took him at least 6 months before he invited me to parties with his friends even though I met his family after only 2 months. Don't worry about it just give him a little time and space if he keeps this up past 7-8 months then it's time for a serious talk.
2007-08-02 17:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by Delaina77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I think you're reading into this way too much. Maybe this started out as a guys night out, or just guys hanging out with each other. Then, things escalated and others were invited. So what. The question is, does he have to be everywhere you are to show that he loves you. No. Do you want to be with him every single second of every single day just to say that you care for him.
Don't jump to conclusions on this one. If this is a one time or first time occurrence, let it go. If this happens all the time, then you have room for concern.
2007-08-02 17:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by Scott D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said this question was for guy, but I think I can still contribute. Not every guy is going to want to bring his gf along with him to every party he happens to go to. That doesn't mean he cares about you less, but it's healthy to have some time to yourselves to hang out with your friends.
It's like, when you go shopping with the girls, do you always want your man around you? No, highly doubt it...or at least I don't, but that doesn't mean I don't love him. I just want time to goof around with my girls and relax. Even married couples have this, some guys have football night or poker night and their wives have scrapbooking parties or a night where all the girls come over and bring a dish, sit and talk about the latest gossip.
I really wouldn't dwell over this, when he's out with his buddies take the opportunity to finish up a project for school or get together with the girls...or even curl up to a good book and get lost for a while. It's unhealthy to constantly think about reasons why you're not at the party with him, he's just having fun with his friends, and he still cares about you. I wouldn't bring it up to him if anything, he will only think you're starting to become clingy and this will only chase him away. Every guy is entitled to a "man" night, just as you are to a girls night.
2007-08-02 17:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Marissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would take you everywhere with me...especially have a party of just the two of us and some Barry White playing in the background.
Click on my boring avatar, then the email hyperlink, and let's get going. Will need to see some pics to make sure before I let you blow out the candles at our two-person party.
2007-08-02 17:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you sound very immature. people go out seperatly and guys need there time with other guys and same with gals. I don't think it has anything to do with him being embarassed about you. Why don't you just ask him why he doesn't aks you to a party? If you are gonna have any serious relationship with this guy you might as well open up now.
2007-08-02 17:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not always, usually means you just want some guy times. A guy's friends feel uncomfortable around his girlfirend, so sometimes we just need guy time so that we can act like idiots without getting in trouble.
2007-08-02 17:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no just like u wuldnt want him @ a party wit al ur girl friends he wants 2 hang out wit his frends 2 u cant b 2gether evry moment of ur lyfe
2007-08-02 17:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by lloyd_banks_310 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a guy safety zone. me speaking for myself i dont like to be at parties with my girl. if she is with me she feels she has the right to get wasted,which leads to me having to watch her all night. then you got to always tell some dude she taking. and you know its gone be atleast one dude who gone try to start some ish with you cause he feel if he beat your *** the girl will go with him. so really its not worth it. now going out to like a bar having a couple of drinks is ok. but when its like dancing and ****. that aint cool. just find some where to kick it with your girls. some guys like to go out without looking over his shoulder every 2 seconds to see if you ok. the only way for us to relax and have a good time is you not being there.
2007-08-02 17:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by Gemini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋