My mom is 39, going to be 40 this october. She looks good and is not overweight. For the past few months, all she talks about is "don't i look good?" and "don't i look better than her? she looks older than me!" and when the famous question comes "how old do i look?" I lie and say "35" when she really looks like 37. And she gets mad and says "35?! I look 32!" and she gets mad at me because i like playing sports and she says "why do you want to play water polo? why do you want to swim? stop playing soccer!" I don't get it, someone who looks "good" should want their kid to look good too, right?! I hate this because she yells so much now and I just want to help her learn that 40 is not so bad right?
For those who remember fearing their 40th bday, how did you overcome it mentally?
I love playing sports
My mom loves my little sister because she is the best swimmer on the team and i just want to bring her something she can be proud of me, athletic wise. Thank you!
2007-08-02 10:32:44 · 3 answers · asked by miss brightside 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i look good, but i want to maintain my fit body and keep playing sports.
Plus, i just found out the boy i love has a girlfriend. I hate being a teenager.
2007-08-02 10:34:03 · update #1
Being a man who is a few years away from being 40 years old. I think I can relate to what she may be going through. She is fighting the mentality that she is over the hill. She feels younger than she is. She is afraid that no man will find her attractive. She may also have a low self-esteem about herself. Could it be due to her past relationships with men?
A lot of people who approach 40 take it a little hard. You mom is not alone in this. She doesn't realize that 40 is the new 30. She needs to realize that we all get older whether we like it or not. Complaining and sulking about it doesn't change things. Instead of dwelling on getting older, people need to live life to the fullest and add quality to their years.
2007-08-02 10:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom isn't comfortable with the fact that she's getting older, and to many people getting older also means losing your good looks. If women didn't face so much pressure to look good and to constantly fight the aging process, your mom probably would feel more comfortable in her own skin. Of course your mom's age and how she looks are only a small part of who she is as a person. Maybe you could find ways to let your mom know what a great person she is. Also, is it possible for you and your mom and maybe some other family members to do some kind of sport together? It may help to boost her self esteem and if she's having fun she may not worry about her looks as much.
2007-08-02 10:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by Courtney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hated being a teenager too. Now I would give anything to go back there. Try not to take on the worries of the world. Just shrug it off and enjoy life. Soon enough you will have to be on your own, with your own bills, responsabilities, work and heartache.
As far as sports and hobbies, do what you love. If you like water polo, play water polo, not for your mom, or because your sister does, but because you like it.
For me it is and has always been horseback riding. It is a release and something to do when everything is creeping up on me.
Good luck hun.
2007-08-02 10:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋