My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months, known each other for 9 yrs dated back in 2001 for a year but broke up cause he moved out of the state(cause of school) since than he has moved back and we started talking but never went out till I finished high school well I'm out of high school and in college and we want to get married (he is 23 turning 24 in october, I'm 19 turning on 20 in november) is it to soon to get married even though we have know each other for 9 almost 10 years.
2007-08-02 10:21:05 · 16 answers · asked by stressed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I knew my wife for 4 months before we were engaged and 4 more before we were married (8 months total). We have been married for over 3 years and are very happy.
The amount of time needed depends on the couple. If you feel that you are ready and you can swing it financially, go for it. Just make sure that you are ready to make a life-long commitment first.
2007-08-02 10:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by Matthew Stewart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should wait a while, you are still very young and have to finish college. If you love each other you will still love each other if you marry now or wait a while. You have known each other for 9 years but you were only kids. You should make the most of this time to get to know each other really well before settling down you will be glad you did in the long run.
2007-08-02 10:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 19, and although we have now been married over 11 years, it hasn't been easy. If you are really sure you are ready to make a life with this man then I doubt anyone can talk you out of it. I know no one could have talked me out of it. I do highly recommend being engaged for a full year before the wedding. First of all it takes that long to plan a wedding, and second it give you time to go through some sort of premarital counseling, something that no couple should skip.
Make sure you have gone over children, religion, and money. Those are three of the major issues that end relationships. If you make it through that then you will have a good head start on marriage.
2007-08-02 10:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Rixie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd forget what everyone else is saying. No one can make this choice for you. If you honestly think that the both of you are mature enough, and financially independent from your family well enough, and if you're absolutely ready to give your heart away for better or worse, go for it! No one should tell you that you're too young, I'm 20, and am planning on getting married next June to the man I've only been dating for 7 months (it'll be a year and a half when we get married). If you love each other, no one else's opinions should matter.
2007-08-02 12:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing each other is not the same as dating, and you are still a teenager. You need at least two years of dating as adults before even thinking about it. You need to finish school, get out into the working world and live on your own, pay your own rent and bills, and deal with the realities of life first - in short, learn what it is to be a woman. Then you can bring your best self into a marriage.
2007-08-02 14:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT!!!! You are only 19! Give yourself some time to enjoy college and started and a career. Enjoy your 20's, it is one of the best times of your life. I am 30 and getting married this year. I wouldn't have done it any other way. I am sooooo happy I didn't get married earlier. I thought I was with "the one" a couple of times, but didn't realize they were so NOT that until I met my fiance. So glad I didn't get married earlier!
2007-08-02 10:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by Sara B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait til you're done with college. I was sure I was ready to get married at 18, but we broke up. It's amazing how much you change in the first few years after high school
2007-08-02 15:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by Silly Sally 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you have known one another for many years, you have still only been a couple for 7 months. You are still very young and have plenty of time. I would take it slow. Maybe in another year or so it would be okay to start thinking about. Remember, the longer you wait the nicer the wedding you will be able to save up for.
2007-08-02 10:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should wait so you'll have more money to blow on an event that last less than a day and costs more than some Americans make and spend in a year?!! Oh, please.
The reason to wait is that you were 10 years old when you met and 13 when you dated. (He was 18 and you were 13--that's weird.) Next spring is soon enough. Spend this time talking about how you imagine married life will be so that you can avoid any big (often unpleasant) shocks afterward. BTW, don't live together while you're waiting; people who live together are more likely to get divorced that those who don't--the ones who just make overnight visits.
2007-08-02 10:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well I am 19 and just got married July 14th, as long as both of you are mature enough to handle a marriage and both make enough to support each other you should be fine.
2007-08-02 10:31:44 · answer #10 · answered by Rita S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋