Atheists: Would you be willing to date someone who did not give you sex?

Question

I used to be really religious and planned on saving myself for my future spouse. But now I'm an atheist. Anyway, I was wondering if I should wait till marriage anyway, I think I would perfer that. But I don't know if the person I am dating would get frustrated. Should I just get in bed if my girlfriend asks? I'm so confused. And I'm 18.

Answer 1

Well it is different for every person, some won't mind, some would.
I suggest you chat to your girlfriend and asks what she thinks about it, if she is willing to wait, then wait until marriage.
If she doesn't want to wait and if you want to do it, do it.

Answer 2

Becoming Atheist does not mean that you give up your morals, it just means that you're not following those morals because someone is forcing you to, but because it's the right thing to do. Follow your heart on this and don't let anyone tell you that Atheists don't wait till marriage, because that is not true. If I had it all to do over again, I would have waited, and I'm a Pagan!

If the person you are dating refuses to wait, then they obviously do not have the same morals as you, nor do they truly care enough about you to wait for you. There are plenty of people out there who will respect you for waiting, anyone who wouldn't is just not worthy of you.

Answer 3

I think its cool that your still a virgin, personally. Dude, that's a very personal choice. Just don't let her pressure you into it. (Yes, girls do it too!)

If its what BOTH of you want, then go for it. Just make sure to have some condomes handy. And never do it when your drunk or otherwise under the influence. that never turns out well. And keep in mind that your risking, even with the safe sex practices, having children. If you don't think you're ready for that, then being celebant is the 100% foulproof method against unwanted or awarkward pregnacies. there are enough idots having kids they don't want, and getting into marriages they later regret due to pregnacies. Just be sure not to be one of them.

And lets not forget STD's. A few moments of pleasure isn't worth the lifetime of pain and medical bills, or the inability to have children later with someone you love.

Answer 4

You should do what's right for you regardless of religion or lack thereof.

When I was younger, before I was married, I certainly would have preferred less pressure to get in bed. Some guys it seemed that was all they wanted to do when I would rather have spent time enjoying their company. Sometimes it even seemed a condition of the relationship. Frankly I didn't even enjoy it much until I was married - because only then I could open up emotionally to everything it had to offer.

On the other hand I don't advocate repressing yourself if it seems right to you.

So do it if you want and don't do it if you don't want, there is no right answer except what's in your heart.

Answer 5

Bowling Cap,
Even an Atheist can have Morals. They may not be Religious Morals but it will not hurt you to wait and it should ven give your girlfriend a good feeling that you care enough about each other to wait for that time tio come. Have a nice evening.
Thanks,
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Answer 6

That's a personal question, not a religious one. There is no need to lose your virginity until you are ready and don't let anyone else tell you or try to convince you otherwise.
To be honest there are plenty of ways to pleasure your girlfriend without full penetrative sex. Just use your imagination...and your tongue

Answer 7

Being an atheist or being faithful to a religion has nothing to do whith right and wrong. That is within each of us to decide. You're on your own on this one just like you will be for the rest of your life. It really is easy to do the right thing. Even without a bible or a church to tell you what that is.

Answer 8

That's up to you. We have no stand on pre-marital sex. We just don't believe it's a sin. It's still your choice. I have no idea of your beliefs...latent guilt...how important this is to your girlfriend, etc. Or...how important is it to you? Was your stand on remaining a virgin until marriage only because of your religion, or did you really believe it was something that was good for you? I was a virgin bride...because I was a Christian at that time. At the time, I felt pride...but in subsequent years, I regretted it. This should be between you and her.

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Answer 9

Just sound out your partner, carefully and subtly. If you'd prefer to wait, let that shine through in the conversation. Be prepared that your partner might indeed get frustrated and leave, it happens. Then again, that was probably not an ideal partner anyway. Or she might understand and appreciate it. It's your life. You set your limits, but be open about them.

Answer 10

well lets see. depends on ur own preferences but, would u drive a car without testing it? by a house without walking around inside?

after all if u married someone had sex found out it sucked, what would u do. or what if u saw her naked for the first time and it was just a total turn off, would you, could you, ignore it...?

*shrug* i like the idea of saving urself for someone, but some things work for people, doesnt for others. if its a very serious relationship and looks dont matter, you know, its a great thing to wait. perhaps that would make the wedding night/honey moon all the sweeter?

depends on ur standpoint and whats important.

Answer 11

That should be a personal decision totally devoid or religious beliefs (or lack of same)

To answer your question, of course I would. There is a lot more to a real relationship than sex.