We were getting a little hot and steamy last night... was making out, she got me pretty worked up eventually. And I asked her if she wanted to have sex and shes like no. I got kinda mad, because she is the one that initiated it all. Is that selfish of me? I just got really silent, and kinda just wanted to be by myself after that! Next morning, same thing happens, she starts making out even going a little further this time with turning me on, and rejects me again. Then asked her for oral, shes like I'll never do that. I'm like thats cool thats cool. I wont make her do anything she didnt want to do. But this is driving me insane. no joke. I like sex and my sex life is pretty important to me. I do treat her good, and I know she is happy, I can just tell on how she presents herself when we are together. But I'm almost debating I should venture off into different territory? I have talked to her about it. Just not on the same page when it comes to this stuff. Any thoughts?
2007-08-02 09:57:19 · 25 answers · asked by Royce 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She isnt a virgin. She has sex with multiple guys. And there is no such thing as foreplay besides making out. I asked her what can we do when your on your period. She is like.. nothing. Ahh this blows. lol
2007-08-02 10:08:20 · update #1
She is on the pill.
2007-08-02 10:09:53 · update #2
Been going out for 3 months and had sex several times. And this isnt definately not the first time this has happened either.
2007-08-02 10:17:23 · update #3
she is being a tease... tell her if she cant handle grown up things then she shouldn't even start it... I think you should drop the immaturity and find someone who is on your level... s.ex isn't the most important part of a relationship but it is very much apart of a relationship and the fact that she only leads you on isn't really healthy for the relationship...
2007-08-02 10:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by I Heart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could a few reasons for this. I read some people do that to increase the desire when they finally have sex. If you have had sex with her before, this could be a reason, or she wants to see when you'll get fed up....
Stop asking to have sex, and just make the move. No woman wants a wimpy man in bed. You have to have an animal like determination. If she flat out refuses then, you can assume someone else is ringing her bell, she's just trying to give you some gratification to throw you off track.
2007-08-02 10:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by patton19150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women do not understand the male mind. They like... they thrive on the anticipation. Some of them can't grasp the concept that they are jacking with their guy when they do stuff like that. Sounds like it's time to change the dynamics of your relationship with her. Next time she initiate the make-out, stop her. Tell her that it is unacceptable for her to start something she has no intention of finishing. Give her a kiss and start doing something else.
You are right to realize that you should never force her to do something she doesn't want to. Good for you. If she won't ever do that, you may indeed have to move on. It's only right for you to find a partner that is on the same page as your self.
2007-08-02 10:04:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see that you feel rejected. And I also I see you've tried to talk to her, but you say it's not working.
Next time you get worked up, offer to give her head. See if this helps. If she says yes, you better be damn good.
If this does not change things for the better, you may have to have a more serious talk – the one that suggests seeing other people.
The most important thing you should know about any relationship is that you have to be willing to give TO her all the things that you are asking FROM her. Get it?
Good luck.
2007-08-02 10:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by teacup_trashy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, for starters, how long have you guys even been dating? You need to give the girl a break, I mean she starts making out with you and you think that automatically leads to sex? Slow down...talk to her about it; and just take baby steps. I'm guessing that you've fingered her and she's given you a handjob? Maybe she won't give you oral, but you could eat her out. Once she knows how good it feels when it's just you're tongue...she'll be wanting more.
2007-08-02 10:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hah. thats not a reason to venture into different terrirtory. sometimes the girl just likes teasing and having fun with her man. and eventually she'll agree to the sex and it will probably be amazing. but maybe shes nervous.... i dont know if you guys have had sex before or not. but if not she might be nervous. dont get so worked up over it! its not that big of a deal. try talking to her again and say you dont like how shes teasing you so much and that it isnt fair. and ask her what she really wants.
2007-08-02 10:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is called a TEASE sounds like all she wants is attention if it keeps up talk to her one more time then start dating other girls....As bad as it sounds SEX is one of the most important things in a relationship for a guy if not the most......Good Luck
2007-08-02 10:04:41 · answer #7 · answered by fuzionsp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried asking about those situations? Maybe she is a virgin and doesn't use any kind of birth control. I think you should have a talk to her and let her know that sex is important to you in a relationship. Isn't it for all relationships?
2007-08-02 10:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by babyphat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is messing with your mind. The next time it happens, tell her to get her p***y out of the house, and dont come back. For her its a game and is not important. For you I can tell it is important.
You might give her fair warning about this because otherwise she will be angry with you. Either put out or dont initiate anything.
Good luck
2007-08-02 10:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by Daniel R. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her fool just like you told us!
she aint leading you on, she just likes 4 play and thats it. Sounds like she is a virgin and thats cool, but not cool for you so talk to her and if she aint willin to give up the bootay then Move around since your sex life is more important than a solid relationshiP!
2007-08-02 10:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by abhammonds 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋