My fiance and I have been together for almost 4 years, and now that we're getting ready to plan our wedding, I'm second guessing it. About 2 years ago we had broke up for about 6 months and both started dating other people, but decided to get back together. He's a great guy and we could have a wonderful life together, but I think I'm in love with the guy I was seeing during the break. Is this just cold feet or should I take this seriously???
2007-08-02 09:54:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds more like cold feet.
2007-08-02 09:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to access your current relationship. When I started feeling that way, I realized all the things I hated about my fiance and that I was just settling for him. I broke it off, and 5 years later, I married the guy I had feelings for. We've been together 15 years, now.
2007-08-02 16:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by nita5267 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is very serious. It could be cold feet but the feelings could be real as far as your ability to stay in a committed relationship. You have to talk to you fiancee. Do not set a date until you have it worked out. I doubt you love the guy from the break, but you probably have doubts about being able to stay true to your possible future hubby.
2007-08-02 16:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, think about the two guys and remind yourself of all the good times you had together with both of them. Say to yourself, which one you love the most? In my opinion, the guy you've been with for four years is your best choice cause that's a long time and i know you do love him.It's not my decision though, but make the right choice.
2007-08-02 17:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes take it seriously! marriage is the biggest decision one can make. you don't want to do it second-guessing. I'd talk to him about it and see what he thinks. Maybe you can both agree to quietly end the engagement and still date, or take another break and see what happens. All I know is, you want to be 100% sure on your wedding day.
2007-08-02 16:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by shoefly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should postpone your wedding plans and tell your fiance that before you guys tie the knot you must be sure about the feelings you have for the guy you dated when you were seperated.
2007-08-02 16:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by leona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't seem like you're new to the relationship thing.
I would think that you would know that you don't need to question love.. you just know. If you're in love with someone, you know. There is no doubt.
But if you feel like you're not ready to commit, then don't get married. If you feel like you still want to date.. then date. Think things through always.
2007-08-02 17:00:30 · answer #7 · answered by thirtycakes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it seriously. If you can't say for sure on your wedding day that your husband is the one and only man you want to be with for life, that doesn't bode well for the marriage.
2007-08-02 16:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by Ambivalence 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should consider it but you got back together with this guy for a reason.
It just sounds like you wonder "what if" and I doubt that is worth giving up what you have.
2007-08-02 16:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by luckyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO TAKE THIS SERIOUSLY FIND OUT WHO YOUR IN LOVE WITH THIS IS A BIG STEP WHO DO YOU LOVE ????????? IF YOU DON'T KNOW THEN YOU CAN'T MARRY THE WRONG MAN THAT WILL HURT HIM THIS IS A BIG DECISION YOUR LIFE MAYBE YOU CAN PUT THE WEDDING ON HOLD TIL YOU FIGURE THIS OUT
2007-08-02 16:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋