Ok I hv an ex that is the father of my son. Complete *** and an alcoholic to boot. i kicked him out after numerous time of drunkness and abusiveness. Yet it is still all my fault according to his family. His life is hell because I took everything away from him. I am the reason I got pregnant, the only one, I guess I impregnanted myself. Things were good for awhile until I filed for child support. Now he is pissed cause he has to pay legally for his son and things just keep getting worse. Today his grandma proceeded to tell me that I was irresponsible for getting pregnant and that I chase him. I only tried to contact him after I found out I was pregnant. So like I said he dose no wrong even though he wrecked my car while drunk and hit a couple of older ladies and left the scene of the accident. Then when he got home he assaulted me. But yet again it is all my fault. Please explain to me why it is never ther persons fault that does the actions?
2007-08-02 09:37:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
his family is a bunch of morons ignore them . go after him and get your child support and everytime you see his family walk the other way . good luck to you .
2007-08-02 09:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S NOT YOU FAULT HIS PARENTS CAN'T BLAME HIM BECAUSE HE'S THERE SON SO THAT'S WHY IT'S YOUR FAULT SOUNDS PRETTY SHALLOW BUT THE PARENTS ARE PROTECTING THERE SON DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT THEY THINK YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING BEING RESPONSIBLE W/ A CHILD HE SHOULD PAY CHILD SUPPORT JUST TAKE WHAT THEY SAY W/ A GRAIN OF SALT DOESN'T STRESS DON'T PUT TO MUCH ENERGY INTO IT YOUR MOVING ON TO BIGGER AND BETTER THINGS GOOD FOR YOU I GIVE YOU ALOT OF CREDIT FOR THAT I KNOW YOU MUST BE HURT BE THING S WILL GET BETTER JUST TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME TIME HEALS ALL........................PEOPLE THINK A PERSON CAN DO WRONG WHEN THEY ARE TOTALLY IN LOVE WITH THEM OR THEY HAVE KNOW THEM FOREVER AND THEY KNOW WHAT THE PERSON CAN DO BEST FRIENDS
2007-08-02 09:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessarily that he can do no wrong. The reality is that most people love their families...and that makes it hard for them to see their loved one's faults. To accuse the person of wrong doing and side with an "outsider" would mean betrayal. It is so much easier for them to make you the bad guy than for them to see the truth. You are their easy way out and the scapegoat.
Get yourself out away from this guy. He is unsafe for you and your child. Find someone who really deserves you.
2007-08-02 09:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a member of your family whom you love is concerned, you often feel the need to protect them and defend them...even when they're wrong. You are being a responsible parent, and you were strong enough to get yourself out of an abusive relationship....GOOD FOR YOU!!! Don't let his family get to you. All you need to know is that YOU are doing the right thing for you and your child. You are being proactive and taking responsibility, and he should too.
2007-08-02 09:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot change what has happened (nor can anyone else in the family); don't be concerned anymore about what "they" think or what they accuse you of...go forward...look forward, not backward...do you HAVE to communicate with grandma or whoever else is accusing you of things (that you couldn't have possible done all by yourself)---You have to make a decision--either you go 'round and 'round with "it's your fault"....or you get off that merry-go-round and change your way of thinking...
2007-08-02 09:45:43 · answer #5 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋