Something on my mind, I noticed that most of my friends are with someone and I stuck being single. It is annoying now since I never had a relationship. Also I hate it when people tell me that I will find someone soon but if they was in the same shoes as me, they would curse me out. So what should i do to keep my sanity from going berserk.
2007-08-02 09:33:47 · 24 answers · asked by The Question Samurai!!! Lv.5 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-08-02 09:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, I don't know how old you are, but if you are young have FUN! You don't need a relationship, enjoy the single life! Go out clubbing, take girls out on dates, etc. However, if you are like in your 30's or late 20's, and you are the type that wants the "Family Life", ask your closest female friends how you can make yourself more attractive. I was watching a special on Nation Geographic and they mentioned that the first step to a lasting relationship is Lust. So, if you're overweight... lose weight, get a new hairstyle, buy some new clothes, etc. You have to put a little from your part. The second step is romantic love. The way to enhance it is by showing intelligence and kindness around the person whose heart you're trying to conquer. Good Luck!
2007-08-10 08:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by kj_agui 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept your situation and let me tell you why. Being single is good because it gives you time to know yourself and what you really want out of life. The bad thing about it is being bored but you have to find your passion. That takes time but once you do, you will put so much into whateve it is that you love the most. The best relationship to have is your relationship with yourself so start there and be comfortable with who you are first, then you can find out exactly what you want in a partner and go for it without any fear!
2007-08-10 09:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a toughie, but understand that the people who tell you not to worry really don't know what to say. It can be hard to give advice on a situation you have never been in. I recommend that you stop focusing on what you don't have and pay more attention to what you do. You have freedom to learn more about yourself and other people. You are not obligated to anyone which gives you a sense of independence and stability. I know how it feels to be single and depressed but usually it is not because you don't have someone. Usually, you are unhappy with yourself and your life. Take some time and find other things that make you happy. You never know who you may meet doing something you enjoy. Good luck and remember the grass is not always greener.
2007-08-10 09:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by hamptoncutie204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why people tell you that you will find someone soon because it's true. Your time will come. When people are not so worried about getting someone that's when people do. Concentrate on other things. If you get so caught in the idea of a girlfriend you may end up with someone you should not be dating. Don't just blow what I have to say off, really think about it.
My boyfriend never had a girlfriend till he was 18, me. He thought he would never in his life get a girlfriend, seriously. Guess what, he was not trying and he got one.
The worrier never gets good things coming to him it's only when he stops worrying he recieves.
It's the almost the same thing when you are waiting for someone one to pick you up and are so anxious. As soon you become not so anxious and give up, they arrive.
It's not fair but true!
2007-08-02 09:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by OpportunitiesDon'tKnock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is funny this way. One by one your friends start being in a relationship, as others get, not left behind, but more or less the girl or guy becomes the highlight of your friends life. I have seen this over and over again with my children. Cheer up, someone is around that corner for you. Meanwhile go out to places where you might meet someone. (good places, fun places) Believe it or not a great place to meet girls, smart and fun ones, are at book stores, and the ones that have open mic night, are the best. Don't worry, love will come knocking when you least expect it.
2007-08-10 09:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should enjoy being single. and what I mean by that is embrace it. go clubbing and bar hopping. being single is fun because you can flirt with whoever you want until you find a girlfriend. go party and MEET some people! GO FLIRT! GO DANCING! have a group outing and have some of your friends bring their single friends....This is the best way to keep from being depressed. don't sit around waiting for somebody to fall in love with you. They'll never find you if your sitting in the house. Go out and shake your groove thing. When women see your comfortable in your own skin and having a good time, more than likey they will wanna come shake it beside you, you know? Take it from me, when I see a guy thats not all stuck up standing around looking stiff, it attracts me to him. Go party, Man!!!!
2007-08-02 09:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by CoolBeans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be glad being single, you don't have extra baggage. Also when you do fall in love you end up having a family with children that will annoy you, that will also cause problems for you the rest of your life. Not every family is perfect if you are planning. Or you can go out with your female friends and realize that you are glad being single because you have so much girls around you.
2007-08-03 04:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by The artist known as avatar Lvl 3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join a club ...if you have a hobby such as crafts, animals...there are all sorts of hobbies and crafts, and all types of recreation out there. Meet people where you go...
You would not believe how many couples wish they were single. I guess the grass if always greener on the other side of the fence. Good luck to you.
2007-08-09 07:41:07 · answer #9 · answered by txpainthorse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a good look at your friends in relationships. They can't do anything without taking the other person's thoughts and feelings into account (if they don't, they won't be in that relationship for long). Enjoy the fact that you don't have to do this, yet. You get to do what you want, when you want. Don't be in such a hurry to be someone's lap dog.
2007-08-02 09:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by homert1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel depressed there is so much more to life than feeling all down and hopeless...but all i can tell you is to give it some time and wait! I know what you mean it sucks not being able to have someone there for you when you need then...or pretty much the love that you want to feel! But don't let it get to you, take it easy!
2007-08-02 09:39:21 · answer #11 · answered by In love! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋