what is the problem with daddys taking their daughters to the bathroom?

Question

Why do people have issues with guys taking their little girls to the bathroom, I mean I am not going to send my 4 year old into the bathroom on her own when I don't know who is in those public bathrooms, and I don't care if they are all girls I don't know them they could do anything to her in there while I am standing outside like a banana.

And no one ever says anything when a girl take her 4 year old son into the bathroom.

They have a parent and child room at my local store which I use when either I need to go or my kids need to go and I take them in and the other day this woman had the nerve to demand to know what I was doing in there with little girls and when I told her I took my daughter to the bathroom she went you had no right where is the mom does she know about this.

By god I was so angry I had to walk away before I hit her or something.

How dare anyone tell me I don't have the right to care about my own kids.

So what is the problem because i don't get it?

I think some people have the wrong idea. I didnt take her into the ladies rest room I took her intothe parents and child room

Answer 1

Its PC gone mad.

A bloke was prosecuted for taking photo's of his kids in the bath not long ago,its pathetic,we used to take photos of our kids having a bath and a laugh all the time years ago.

We went to my grandaughters nativity play one christmas and we weren't allowed to video it,how sad,that we can never see it again or show it her when she is older,this was because it may offend other parents who dont want their kiddies filmed by potential paedophiles.

I can understand it to some extent,but it just seems a little sad.

Answer 2

It's no worse than women taking their sons, which happens all the time. (the only difference is women will just get annoyed and not say anything). But there may be a little issue here with modesty. I don't like when I'm using a restroom and little boys are running wild looking under stalls, peeing on the seats, etc. Perhaps some men are more bashful if a young girl that isn't their own family sees them doing their business. Public restrooms are wierd enough to start with w/o adding on all that. I'd say if you supervise her while she's in there with you and try to make sure others' privacy is respected you're a step above a lot of parents. Beyond that, men AND women should always look for family restrooms first when they're taking young ones of the opposite sex with them. That's what they were built for. I'm generally pretty understanding when I'm somewhere and no there are no other options for the parents (taking care of the kiddos is a top priority after all), but it is a bit of a pet peeve at a place like the mall when someone brings in a child and there are family restrooms 10 feet away...

NM! Just saw your update about this happening to you in a family restroom. forget that then.. that woman was just out of her rights completely. The family restroom is for families... if she has a problem or wants more privacy then tell her SHE should use the ladies room. Sounds like you're not only a good dad but also being respectful of others (b/c you used the family restroom). That lady should take a lesson from YOU about respect.

Answer 3

I think that guys are looked at as child molestors and just your basic child abuser. Reguardless of what this is. I know I have a nephew that is four and I don't feel bad or funny at all taking him with me into the bathroom. He needs my help to zip, button, tuck, hold shirt up ect...

So at four I definitely say that they still need help. The thing between the guys and the girls bathrooms is that when men go they stand next to the wall. I would want to protect my four year old girl from seeing men's private parts. Make sure that you are careful in this area. Otherwise taking her in a stall with you shouldn't be a problem.

She may be starting to notice that boys and girls are different and when you become uncomfortable getting dressed in front of her (all kids are different) then I say it is time for you to stay covered so that you don't have to answer a lot of questions in the bathroom stall about private parts on men...

As for the rude woman in the store...everywhere you go there are rude people. Just simply smile (I know that it's hard) and let her know that your daughter four years old had to go potty.

Good Luck!!

So sorry that there are rude people out there, when you are so clearly trying to be a good daddy to your little girl.

Answer 4

I think some of the responders here are misunderstanding when you say parent/child room. Most newer and/or bigger and/or remodeled public areas now have a third bathroom, sometimes called a family restroom. You are a prime example of why this room was made, so you can take care of your child without any worries. The lady that you said gave you a hard time was so in the wrong....I'm glad you walked away because you can't cure stupidity. I take my son into the ladies room with me and have never faced criticism...why can't that apply to men too? More places need the "family restrooms" and the public needs to be educated about their use.

Answer 5

Hi,

I'm a mum and i have no problem with my daughter and her dad going to the bathroom...so good on you for being a good parent and realising the risks of what could happen.

I cant stand people who are small minded like the woman you mentioned. So fair enough there is a few odd ball men out there but the majority of men these days are normal dads who love there kids and take as active a role in there kids lives as the mum does. Obviously this woman was either old or just brought up to believe that women should do everything and it's not right for a man to do things with there daughters...in this day and age it's ridiculous. our daughter does loads with her dad, he goes swimming with her where he has to bring her in to the changing room, he takes her to the bathroom if he's out....he doesn't get to see her during the week hardly because he works so the weekend he spends with the kids.

Its people like that woman who make men question themselves when they have no reason to. There just being good responsible caring parents...what more could a child want.

well done...lets hope she is one of few...old bat!

Have a lovely day

Answer 6

I applaud you for doing such. Most men would take their little girls into the mens bathroom and to me, well thats not right because men do not have to go into stalls to do everything as women do and a little girl could see way to much. As for the women who think this is wrong. Get over it, You are being a protective father, not a perv. Keep up the good work.
I am glad that some stores have seen the issues on this and now have family bathrooms for such occasions, when in a store ask if they have one so that you do not have to worry about the problems of going into a womens bathroom :)

Answer 7

Wow! At first I was wondering if you were taking her into public mens rooms w/ urinals and thought that might be part of the problem. That might be a bit too much at 4. However, a parent/child room or single handicap bathroom shouldn't be a problem. Sounds like this woman just had a stick up her @$$. It's her problem; she's either a prude or has a "bad experience" as a child. Either way, don't worry about it.
I have no issue with my daughter going potty w/ her daddy.

Answer 8

If it was a 'parent & child' room, then nothing wrong! A parent can be either male or female. However, if the store provided childcare facilities in the female room by law they have to provide them in the mens' facility also - and if they didn't and you got in trouble for using the female room, you could counter-prosecute under the Sex Discrimination Act 1975, or if a public body, under the Gender Equality Act 2006. Its just some women don't want men being carers and would rather go into old age in poverty due to not working and not paying into a pension than letting everyone be equal.

Answer 9

if i was you i would have hit her lol

no seriously we have a parents room at our local shopping centre and although you don't see many daddy's in there they are certainly most welcome. in all honesty i would have just pointed out that it says parents room and not just mother and child. she had no right to question why you were there because when your kids gotta pee shes gotta pee, i supposed the stupid woman would have had much more to say if you were in the street dangling your child over a grate flashing her bottom for the whole world to see. narrow minded people get up my nose do people like that think that only mums take their kids to the toilet?!?!?! and i wonder what she would have said if she saw you coming out of the boys toilets with a little girl in tow?? i bet she would have pointed out that you could have gone into the parents room and that the boys toilets is no place for a little girl. people like that are never happy unless they are complaining about something. personally i don't have a problem and often send my feller to the toilets with my daughter while i watch the other 2 while out shopping and hes never had a complaint. like i said when a kids gotta pee they have to go and they don't care who or where as long as they get to go NOW!!!!!! lol

Answer 10

It's too bad that there is a stigma against daddies out there caring for their children. My son is almost three and I guarantee no one has EVER given it a 2nd thought when I march him into the ladies' room. When he was smaller, there were times when the men's room didn't have a changing table and the women's did.

Four is too young to be alone in a bathroom. There is nothing shocking or inappropriate about a father assisting his 4 year old in the potty...good grief! Keep your cool and don't let those jerks get a rise out of you.

Answer 11

Our youngest (3 yrs. old) is on a kick right now where if we are all out together & she needs to go, she insists her Daddy take her. As far as I know, he's never gotten any rude comments about it. I'm so sorry you have had to put up with this.

Some people are absolutely paranoid. And, as a poster above said: the world is a f----'ed up place. It's a real shame that you catch trouble for being responsible! Good for you for not letting her go into the ladies' room alone at her age.

Stand your ground, you're obviously a great dad.