I'm so attracted to this guy and he likes me too. Up until now we've been friends..we knew each other a little before he moved to another state. Since then have kept in contact by chat..once a mth or so. Now I have to visit his city for work and he'd love to meet up. Problem is I'm already so into him and can't stop obsessing. He wrote that he's going to fall in love with me. Also said hurry up and come visit. Thing is I don't know him that well..but I do know he's attracted to me & seems like a decent guy. I'm just worried as we don't chat very often. Now its a few wks since we've chatted..usually he contacts me. It's making me insecure & worried but I do know he's really busy now and the last contact (by him) he checked again when I was leaving! I recently mailed him to tell him the date I'll be there and am waiting a reply. It's so hard to wait.
2007-08-02 09:09:24 · 15 answers · asked by sonia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he wants some action because he knows you are coming, and he knows you will leave.
Nothing better than vacation romance
2007-08-02 09:13:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he does have free will. So he might like. Since you do not know each other well, maybe you need to slow down a bit. Perhaps he is not going to be as attentive as you think. Also, the fact that he is not with you is making you insecure and wanting him that much more...without even knowing what it would really be like to be together all the time. Anyway, so many people write on here about someone not calling or texting enough. I think it shows some youth and insecurity. You need to build confidence in yourself and not fall off the deep end so quickly on someone you do not know well.
2007-08-02 09:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have many conflicting emotions going on. He does live out of state so that doesn't sound too promising as far as a relationship goes. But, by all means, meet up with him maybe for a meal or something if you will be eating out anyway. Don't hold your hopes up too high however for romance. You may make the evening stressful. Watch out for your expectations! . It is good to have friends in places where business takes you. He will enjoy catching up on the news from home so both of you should come out ahead.
2007-08-02 09:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by HelpingHand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful in long distance relationships. As A guy if a woman was coming to see me a few times a yr or more and we were def. going to hook up, of course I would tell her what she wants to hear. It sounds like this guy is really not into you that much and probably has something local as well and just looking for some good times while you are there. Of course there is nothing wrong with this as long as you know about it. If you are ok with this arrangement then fine. if not you may want to just move on. Good luck with all of your endeavors
2007-08-02 09:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by arsa1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is too busy for you, then, could this be a sign that you should not let your feeling motivate your actions just yet..Don't fall for someone unless you know their heart as well. Be patient and if he is meant to be with you, it will happen. But don't be let down if he decides otherwise. This is why you must be patient..
2007-08-02 09:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by *DestinyPrince* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Go to the mall, get yourself a nice "date outfit" and be yourself. If you meet up when you reach his city, and things work out great! Don't obsess, because if it doesn't workout you will be very upset...Don't make this guy your main focus in life.
2007-08-02 09:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm. sorry to say he's just not 'into' you enough. if he really really liked you he'd want to chat more and make more of an effort. i've been in this situation a couple of times and it ended in tears because i didn't move on as soon as i should.
2007-08-02 09:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you mailed him to the right address, if it was postal, was the address right ?
If it was email, was it the latest one he is using, if we have many email accounts, we generally don't used all of them often and usually forget passwords of the ones that we use less frequently, therefore send him message that he is using currently or the latest one
2007-08-02 09:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are really strange. If a guy shows too much interest in her, she loses all attraction for him. But if the guy ignores her, she is really interested.
2007-08-02 09:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by LuckyLavs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's really serious he'll contact you. But maybe out the blue you can call him and see whats going on with him. But don't get your hopes up.
2007-08-02 09:12:44 · answer #10 · answered by lisha1351 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother always told me guys like what they can't have maybe he's using that on u but just do the same maybe at some point he'll start talking to you even more
2007-08-02 09:12:52 · answer #11 · answered by elena_fitz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋