Can I get forgiveness?

Question

I have been a very nieve person lately not because I am a bad person only because I am an unhappy person. Is it wrong to have strong feelings in your heart for someone. I don't know how to deal with things anymore. Please help me find the truth I am looking for. I don't want to loose the love for the people I want in my life. It seems like I am not even myself anymore but I can't get rid of the feelings I have in my heart for someone I care deeply about. I have tried to ask people in the network to help me but I only get hurt. Am I such a bad person for feeling this way? I have my faith and believe in it but sometimes life is so confusing I forget about it.What can I do to have what I most desire in life and make all the bad things go away. I'm desperate. I can't eat or sleep please help me. All I know is Love in my heart that I can't let go of.No matter how wrong it is or right it is . Please bless me more than I already am. I need someone to love me for who i am.

Answer 1

There is no reason to feel this guilt.

If you truly feel these strong emotions, then you should embrace them, no amount of rigid and ignorant hate speech should deter you from honest feelings and expression.

If you fear for your safety or even your social stability then you must take precautions, find someone you can trust and depend on (if yourself is not enough), and discuss everything with that person, do not put yourself in compromised positions rashly.

Answer 2

I can hear the hurt in your words.

As to the forgiveness, sure! Forgiveness is always available from God. All you need do is repent. Repent means to turn away from whatever bad thing you did, and do not do it any more.

From what you have written, I cannot see the sin. You speak of having strong feelings for someone. Ok, that in itself is not sinful. If you let these strong feelings pull you into some sort of action that you should not have done, well now THERE could be a sin.

If your strong feeling was one of hatred, and you reached out to hurt someone, you have sinned against that person, and against God. You absolutely should seek forgiveness from God. Some folks think you should also seek the forgiveness of the one you hurt.

While that is admirable, it is not always a safe thing to do in this world. If the person is a Christian, and really a Christian, not just one who professes to be one, then I suppose it would be a good thing to give them the benefit of the doubt. If you get the impression that they are against God, I wouldn't try this alone.

If you strong feeling was one of love, and you were led into a sexual relationship outside of a Marriage Covenant, that too, is a sin, and you should seek the forgiveness of God.

Love is great, and it is something we are supposed to do. But keep in mind that Satan can take your personal feelings and "tweak" them into excuses for behaviors we ought not do. If we get fooled by Satan into sin, we have to learn from our mistakes and get smarter than Satan.

Also, if you are feeling guilt, think about this. Guilt from God is the kind that inspires you to change for the better. Guilt from Satan just makes you feel dirty and worthless.

If you are feeling Godly guilt, then go with it and make the changes you know you need to make. If your guilt is from Satan, ignore him and his lies. Go back to God for the right guidance you need.

Answer 3

my dear,
ur not bad person at all,u just need some help,not from a therapist but from ppl who love u ,care for u and stand beside u in such a hard time
and its not wrong to have strong feelings in ur heart for someone but u have to make sure that u are giving ur feelings to someone who really deserves it.
look my dear,ur saying that u cannot deal anymore wiz things but i am sure that its not morethan a proplem of depression and frustration so plz think highly of urself

''Learning to live ,begains with develpoing postive attidutes and ur inner vision'' Gerald H.Bardley
Dear,wht is the truth that ur looking for,before asking for it just be sure which truth that ur seeking,do u know it???
simply if u know that if u know it well then u will be able to find it

faith is our way to survive ,have strong faith in ur heart,wrok according to it and u well never be lost

urnot bad at all ,ur just confused my dear,

Answer 4

Only if people wish to forgive you. A better question is whether it matters if they forgive you.

Personally, I think it is most important to remember that you are human, just like they are. Everybody has their strengths and faults. Just being honest with yourself and who you are is a big step. You have to be able to accept yourself.

As far as the other people go, you have to figure out where you want to be in society. You have to figure out how you would like others to think of you. This becomes important in how you deal with other people and it affects how they deal with you. This is called building your character.

You'll find that if you are consistent and honestly represent yourself, people will treat you well. This is more important, even, than what your strengths and weakness are. I would rather deal with someone who is openly self-centered and arrogant, for example, than someone who tries to be someone who he is not. You don't know where you stand with someone who is fake.

Do try to improve yourself and work towards being the person who you want to be, but don't shy away from your faults. Everybody has them.

Answer 5

Mathew 11:29-30, Proverbs 18:24 This friend is the Holy Spirit. If you have ask God for forgiveness then you have it. You just need to forgive yourself. Romans 8:1 Christ is not condemning you don't let others and don't do it yourself.

Answer 6

God will always forgive if you honestly repent. Now, as far as your feelings go, why don't you try a counselor? Key here: find a woman counselor, and if you are a Christian, go to a Christian woman counselor. Everyone goes through times where they struggle with something - God has appointed people here on earth to help - the counselors. Also, as far as needing someone to love you for who you are - Jesus does that. In fact, He loves you so much that He died on a cross for you, and then rose from the dead!!!!!!!!!! If you're in need, call on God. He's there, I promise.

Answer 7

God is always waiting for someone like us who did something wrong to ask forgiveness.

Hebrews 4:16 Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.

God is full of mercy.

Jonah 4:2 And he prayed unto the LORD, and said, I pray thee, O LORD, was not this my saying, when I was yet in my country? Therefore I fled before unto Tarshish: for I knew that thou art a gracious God, and merciful, slow to anger, and of great kindness, and repentest thee of the evil.

Answer 8

Love is not wrong, I don't know why anyone would ever think that, lust is wrong...God can forgive anyone for anything all you have to do is ask. Just pray about it, God will get you through the hard times, and sometimes carry you through them.
God Bless

Answer 9

A major problem in the Christian life is unforgiveness. It's not a matter of them forgiving you, it's you forgiving them. The Lord's prayer requires you to do this unconditionally - no expecting them to ask your forgiveness - no expecting an apology. You forgive them without any questions.

Answer 10

Girlfriend, love in your heart is never wrong. It might be painful as H>E>L>L sometimes, but it's never wrong.

And forgiveness from God is always there for the asking. Forgiveness from other people seems to be harder to get, though.