2007-08-02 08:20:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he doesnt love me. im sorry but i dont understand. why wouldnt he find another girl he wouldnt hit that he loved then?
IF ITS NOT LOVE THEN WHAT IS IT? AND WHY DOES HE DO IT?
2007-08-02 08:22:05 · update #1
Because he can control you. You asked why he "wouldn't find another girl he wouldn't hit"...honey...YOU are not making him hit you...it's not your fault. He would do this to any girl he was with and he stays because you let him. You should get away and get help.
2007-08-02 08:28:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think when people hit their signifiant other, they DO believe to be in love with them. In some ways, they might think in their own mind that husbands that don't hit wives don't care about them or else they'd discipline them better.
I can't claim to know what goes on in the mind of an abuser. I just know that when someone tries to control a situation, they can't truely love the person that they're trying to control, or else they wouldn't be loving the person for who and what they are. I think that's the idea behind someone saying that they can't love you.
2007-08-02 08:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not love, it is power. He know he can do this to you so he's gonna keep doing it. He has a serious problem, Get out of the relationship before things get completely out of control and you wind up in the hospital or dead.
2007-08-02 08:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't love. He isn't capable of love, that's why he doesn't find another girl. He just wants someone to use and mistreat. Get out right away! Abusers DO NOT change, no matter what you do; and it only gets worse.
2007-08-02 08:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably stays becuz he thinks he has control over her. I dont think its love because if u loved tha girl u would never try 2 hurt her in anyway.
2007-08-02 08:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by kc_816ma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not love, honey. Unless you count his desire to beat up on someone as "love." That is, he loves to have a punching bag.
It's only going to escalate. Go visit your local women's shelter and talk with some of the ladies there.
2007-08-02 08:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because
n i hope that you are not this silly
you allow him to hit you
why on earth would he leave he knows that it is WRONG and that no other women would deal w it
come on you cant really believe that this guy loves you
honey move on
call the cops
get a restraining order
MOVE ON
2007-08-02 08:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it hurt when he hits you? Be it physical, mental or emotional? If yes to any plain and simple you dont hurt what you love, and honey it's called physical abuse it can get worse.
2007-08-02 08:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by sexylovelet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably stays with you because in some small way he does love you. He also probably stays because you take it from him. Don't let him do that to you. Do you think you deserve it? I sure don't.
2007-08-02 08:24:09 · answer #9 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋