People think i took advantage of her, But i didn't, what should i do? please help?

Question

Hi. I was at this party a few months back, and got with this girl, both of us, had had a few drinks. and then later on a few hours later the girl i got with was sick etc due to too much alcohol. Now she cant remember anything of the night and I remember everything. Now her best female friend, thinks that when i got with her " i hit on her when she was so drunk she could barely move". Now that was not the case. But how can i prove to her that what i am telling her is the truth? especially when the person i got with cannot remember anything of the previous night. And why won't she believe me? she's calling me creepy, cos of what happened. any help would be very very helpful. thankyou

Answer 1

I would be very careful here. Maybe you can find some other people who were sober enough to remember it at the party and who can vouch for you. If you can, bring them into it. Girls are going to believe their girls over a one night stand any day, but if the one night stand has backup proof then who knows.

But like I said, be careful here, very careful. If you continue on with this and keep pushing, the girl could charge you with sexual battery or date rape.

If she calls you creepy, call her a s*lut. No! Don't do that, I'm only kidding. LOL, don't call her a s*lut, it'll just make things worse.

Answer 2

People jump to conclusions very quickly. Myself included sometimes. There are so many ****** up people out there who wait until the chick is really drunk, and try to have sex with her.

Whenever I see a guy trying to take away a drunk girl, especially one I know, I'll confront him. If the girl isn't too drunk to realize what's going on, they usually go along anyways. But we (groupl of friends) keep an eye out, just in case.

**** I hate people like that. Think that being drunk gives them an excuse to do anything they want.

Sorry to say, but the only thing that'll change their mind is time. Sucks, but most of the time it is safe to assume that if a guy takes home a drunk girl, it's for one reason. Not always, as in your case, but most of the time.

Answer 3

Believe me when I say women they remember… she many feel embarrassed, overwhelmed, and or said too much, but she remembers…

Now telling you she does not remember what happened is her way of putting the Jeannie back in the bottle. If she said too much (like she like you all along) or did stuff to lead you on… Just remember, she wants to put the Jeannie back in the bottle and forget the whole thing ever happened. Good girls don’t want to be known as loose and easy.

Don’t bring it up; it will only lead to trouble… (Don’t want to be accused of taking advantage of her or worst, rape… so that she can save face)

Answer 4

c if other ppl were at the party who saw call and could talk to u buds- like the person servin the drinks or something.
Make sure you give eye contact when lookin at her and telling the truth- for some reason eye contact is a really big trust thing in American culture

Answer 5

Sounds like you like to party a little too much. Wrong place, wrong time. Nothing you can do about it bro. I think if you are hanging out with chicks like those, you might want to rethink what you are looking for. Parties, getting so drunk can't remember what happened, not the girl I would look for.

Answer 6

Take a lie detector test, or just forget about them. The whole point of having a friend is to share yourself with someone. They understand you on a 1:1 basis. And if they won't believe you, then there aren't your real friends. You have nothing to prove. You know you didn't do it, and that's all that matters.

Answer 7

You shouldn't even be around her. Cut the friendship and don't hang out anymore. If she can't remember things that she did, then she's a loser who can't hold her drink. You shouldn't be around ppl like that b/c they like to start drama for everybody else and eventually the blacking out will catch up to her some way or another and you wouldn't want to be there OR get blamed for something.

Answer 8

maybe she does remember but she is ashamed of herself so she is acting. If she did forget say hey, this is what happened and then explain to her and say how she was willing to just like you. Tell the friend to back off BC it is non of her business. You don't look bad she does. She is the one that "doesn't remember" not you.

Answer 9

Things happen. This will pass at some point. Tell her that you live and learn and don't be so conscious about what she thinks of you. Your confidence will speak louder then you insecurity.

Answer 10

don't screw really drunk girls and you'll be alright.. iv'e seen it happen to many times, even seen a guy accuse a girl of taking advantage of him (why would a guy care ?? lol) tell her the truth, and assure her that it was mutual.