My family has always been a really close knit family....BUT My alcoholic brother-in-law called yesterday in a drunk rage and told my mom and dad that we could have nothing to do with my sister or my nephew...He said dont call and dont come by.....He is such an A$$ and my sister doesnt have much of a back bone to tell him that, that is not acceptable....HELP!!...What can I do??What should I do??...My sister is a grown women and should be able to stand up and choose who she wants to associate with....
2007-08-02 06:52:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well its all up to your sister to make the change...
2007-08-02 06:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by ♫♥♪♬♥♪Try Me♫♥♪♫♥♪♬ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should talk to your sister and make sure he is not abusive to her or her child. She may be afraid to stand up to him. He needs help or she needs to get out of the relationship! It's not healthy for her or her child. Does the family get along with your brother-in-law when he is sober? If so now is the time to act! Talk to him when he is sober about the incident. Stay calm and tell him you are concerned. Have your family members talk with him too. Alcoholics need help to stop drinking and if you attack him it will only make it worse. Don't wait and don't just let it pass! If he is violent towards your family he is most likely violent towards your sister. Don't let her or her child become another statistic!!
2007-08-02 07:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sis needs to realize what he is doing to her and her family as well as her child. You are right, it is unacceptable, but nothing can be done about it unless your sis does it for herself. She needs to take a stand. The only advice I can give you is for you to try to talk to her along with the rest of your family. Then get your brother-in-law in the same place as the rest of you and all of you say something to him about it.....yes, gang up on him and see if it helps or throws him into a rage. He will definitely feel threatened, and when he does, let him know that it takes a man to be a father and husband, and apparently he isnt one. Attack his manlyhood every chance you get to bring him down a few notches. He is so insecure that he cannot handle his wife around her own family. Things like that. It will have to get ugly with this guy if your sis will not stand up and do it on her own.
2007-08-02 07:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sure you are aware he needs help. AA perhaps. As far as what he says when he is in that condition I would just ignore. I would have a little talk with my sister as to why she is staying in a relationship with a man who has a problem and is not getting any help. Telling him his behavior is unacceptable is a little ridiculous as you have your eye on the wrong ball here.
2007-08-02 06:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do an intervention. That's what we did. Your brother in law sounds a lot like mine. We gave him ultimatums and he chose to drink anyway. His wife left him / his kid wants nothing to do with him (he's 7) and when he comes home to mommies house (my MIL) for holidays none of the other family shows up. The only time we see him is at funerals! My hubby is ok with not seeing him as he understands what an alcoholic can do to a family especially if there are some who just enable / enable / enable....
2007-08-02 07:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
she needs to stand up and tell him this is wrong , my dad is the same way as ur brother in law so i know where your coming from. if all fails then she needs to leave the relationship, dont let ur family crumble over a bottle of beer. Stand Tall !!!
2007-08-02 06:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by chris_bourdon2001 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your family is as close as you say someone or a group of you need to have a sitdown with this guy and tell him no more if he won't listen bye bye
2007-08-02 06:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by ken j 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
was he drunk yesterday? If so treat it like you never got the call. The guy is a controling person. Don't let him control you.
2007-08-02 06:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him you wont stay out of your family's life for any reason. unless your sister tells you to stay away then ignore what he said. you didnt say what had him pissed off anyway.
2007-08-02 07:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah its up to them.. it is sad really,, life is hard enough and your family,, like alot are today are just mixed up,,, where has the love gone in family today... its sad
2007-08-02 07:12:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋