Help im 13 and my bf keeps asking me for sex?

Question

okay he is 14 and we are v close, we sleep at each others houses, go on holiday together ( with our parents ) and we do everything together, we been going out for 12 months now and he is starting to want me to sleep with him, last time he asked i said no and he didnt call me for the rest of the day
im 13, and im a virging and he is expecting me to have sex, i really dont want to do it, but whatif he will stop liking me?

Answer 1

just say no and mean it

Answer 2

Sweetheart, get away from that guy NOW! 13 is way too young to be having sex. Three quarters of folks around here may disagree with me but virginity is precious. What right does this kid have to be asking you to give away what's so precious. I hate to sound preachy, but listen, have you considered what can happen if you do this? Your family will be angry, you will be disgraced and your little friend will walk away. Have you thought about what might happen if you get pregnant? Don't you have dreams that you want to accomplish. Listen, I'm not a mother and I'm only 23, but I think this is all wrong for you. I'll make a little personal announcement to you: (and others reading this :0) ) I am a virgin. Why? Because there's a lot I want to do in life and getting myself involved with a man at this point will hinder that. I'm not ready for a family and commitment and all that stuff and I don't believe in casual sex. Sex is meaningful and there's no place for it in a 13 yr old girl's life. Personally, I don't think a girl your age shouldn't be messing with boys. These are mature relationships that should be reserved for when your seeking a permanent relationship--think of it as shopping for a life partner. You don't want that right now, do you? You're not even allowed to vote yet! If he stops liking you, tough. No one, 14 or 41 and beyond should be forcing another to have sex with them--whether or not you're a virgin, it's just not right. Please, take my advice, find yourself, grow up and worry about the boys later. :-)

Answer 3

My sense is you really already know the answer to this question. But as a way to answer you let me ask: Why do you think you've even posted this question here? The fact that you're asking leads me to believe that you don't want to do this. I will tell you that you're still young and you want to wait until you find someone that you really care about and really cares about you before you start having sex. If he is asking all the time, it doesn't sound like he really cares about how you feel about it. Ask yourself what it really means to you to have sex, how your relationship with him will change after you've had sex, how you're going to feel after you've had sex (and whether those feelings are something you can share with him), and whether this guy can give you the kind of sexual experience you really want (particularly for your first time). My guess is that if you're really honest with yourself, you'll find that this isn't the time or the guy to being doing something so special with. There's no rush (he shouldn't be rushing you into making a decision either). So, take your time and make sure you make the best decision for you

Answer 4

It is really good that you know that your not ready for sex and you are saying no. At your age a lot of young girls are sometimes pressured in to this kind of thing and you are very strong for saying no to some one you care for!
Obviously this is upsetting you, why not call him up, and tell him how much he is upsetting you by asking for sex. If he really loves you he will understand and wait until you are ready. He should understand that if you love him the time will come that you 2 will sleep together but you are too young!
the most important thing to do is stick to your guns i.e. dont have sex if you dont want to! You will really regret it...
if he really loves you, after the chat with him, he will still like you. If he continues to pester for sex, or blanks you for days, then he doesnt love you, and their is no point being with him. I no that sounds harsh, but you dont want to sleep or be with a boy that doesnt love you. that is the owrst thing you could do, and you can do so much better than that!

so just call him and tell him and i hope he does the right thing by leaving the sex issue alone. if he doesnt, then remember, your young and can do so much better then him.

If anything happens after this, then tell your parents and im sure they will insure he doesnt bug you.

good luk xx

Answer 5

That's really up to you. Once you take that step and have sex, there is no going back again, as you well know. Is it worth it? Surely if you two have been doing out together, he should have a good amount of respect for you and respect for your decisions. If the only reason why he no longer likes you because of your answer of "no", then perhaps it's time to find some other boy friend, or just stay single for a while.

Answer 6

What if he does stop liking you, that should prove that he doesn't care about you the way you thought he did. Ok, lets say you do have sex with him, what will happen then if he decides he doesn't like you anymore or he doesn't want to be with you anymore, so by having sex it ruined it.

First of all, he's to young to even be having sex because sex isn't somthing to do just because you're bored, but something you should both do when you're older and know the time is right and you both know this won't be just a game to one another.. I know you arent ready, so dont feel pressured by him, even if he tells you he will dump you, just tell him you rather wait until you're older. You both have the rest of your lives to have sex.

Sex comes with alot of responsibilities, and by the sound of it I know you aren't ready for that type of commitment. This boyfriend of yours sounds like someone who doesn't deserve to be with you. You deserve someone who will respect you and your decisions..I hope you won't let him pressure you into anything I know you aren't ready for.

He is immature and rude, and you deserve way better than him hun. If he tries to pressure you again, tell him to back off on that subject and tell him he will lose a great gf if he keeps acting the way he is. Good luck! And remember, that your first time should be with someone you truly love because once you give it away, there is no turning back, and you will always remember it being an experience you wish you had waited for!

Good luck, and remember to never feel pressured by anyone!

Answer 7

If you don't want to have sex then tell him and leave it at that. Draw a line in the sand. If he stops liking you because you refuse to sleep with him, is he really the type of boy that you want to love you?

You are so young and so is he. You both have some growing up to do (and I mean that in a positive sense). If he is pressuring you to give him sex. Walk away. Tell your parents and leave him. That is how date-rape cases happen because the girl doesn't want it and the guy does. Don't worry if he stops likeing you. Find other friends to hang out with. There are other guys in the world and you have lots of time to find them. You don't have to have things figured out at 13 and chances are you are not going to marry this guy so let him go.

I know it is hard since you are so close, but if he is making you uncomfortable about wanting sex then walk away. Would any of your other friends put that kind of pressure on you? To say "Do this or we are not friends?" i don't think so! So it is no different with your boyfriend, if he can't respect you and your fears and desires, then walk away. There are better guys out there.

Answer 8

Honey, you have the rest of your life to have sex. Wait chances are if you sleep with him he'll tell all his friends and leave you any way.
If you said no the last time and he stopped talking to you that shows he's not responsible enough to have sex.
If you do decide to have sex remember to make him where a condom because despite what he may of told you , you can get pregnant the 1st time .
Your 1st time will be a disappointment if you don't really feel ready ask most women and 90% will tell you the same thing "I wish I waited" I lost my virginity at 17 and I still wish I waited because I met my 1st love just 6months later with whom I was with for 6, 1/2 years.
Dont rush to act grown up. Kiss and cuddle go to the movies and hangout you have the rest of your life to have sex.
Your virginity is yours to give but you can only give it once because if you give it to the wrong person you will regret it for the rest of your life.
You know whats in your heart and if he loves you truely he will wait untill you are ready .If he dosent its his loss not yours and remember when you are ready protect yourself wear a condom .
P.S.dont let the bilbe bashing nutters out there make you afraid of sex its your choice what you do its your body . But sex is always best in a loving relationship with both partys consenting .
Pls wait and dont rush to grow up .

Answer 9

At 13 your body is not ready for that kind of thing. What you want today you won't want in a year. So if he leaves you that is what you will want a few months down the road.
But when you get pregnant that is forever. That completely changes your body. YOur life and your health.
Your to young for those drastic changes.
One girl was being pressured to have sex only to find out later that he had been doing the same to another girl and she not only got pregnant but AIDS. She was very glad she didn't have sex with him. that is a giant step and you are way to young to take it.

Answer 10

if he stops liking you because you won't have sex with him, then he's not worth knowing.....not even as a friend. don't ever let ANYONE pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. besides, he's only 14 and it's just his hormones. but let me say this, if you do give him sex, how long do you think it'll be before he gets it from someone else. boys at that age are not experienced enough to pressure a girl into doing it. if you wait a few years, trust me, it'll be a whole lot better. what does a 14, let alone, a 13 year old know about sex? just enjoy your teen years & have fun!

Answer 11

Why are you all sleeping at each others houses at your ages? Where are your parents in all of this? Have they no sense? Do not under any circumstances have sex with him. What if he stops liking you? Do you think he really likes you if he stops over that? He doesn't. If he really likes you, he won't pressure you into doing something that he knows you don't want to do, he will wait for you until you are ready as long as it takes... and if he doesn't, then he never REALLY liked you to begin with, he was using you. And I am not saying that to be mean and nasty.. I am saying that to be truthful... Been there, Done that!