help im 13 and my bf keeps asking me for sex?

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i dont want to have sex with him, im only 13 and im a virgin, but he expects me to have sex because all his x's did it with him.. i really wont want to have sex, but i dont want to leave him either what can i do ?

my bf is 14

Answer 1

Honey....you sound like a very intelligent girl. Keep your first time for someone who really cares about you and your well being. If he is pushing you into something you really don't want to do, than he obviously doesn't care for you the way he should.
Your virginity should be saved for someone you care about, and that cares about you. Your first time having sex is something that you can never get back, don't throw it away now.
And if he has had sex before with all of his exes, chances are you might be an ex of his soon after. Unfortunately you probably won't be with him in a couple years, so don't put too much care into your relationship, you are still so young.
Like I said before you sound very smart, you need to find someone just as smart as you are.
Stay beautiful..........

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13 is too young to do that... I'm older than you, and I'm still a virgin. There's nothing wrong with saying no. Even though your boyfriend might be sweet, to be honest, guys around that age will do anything to get in a girl's pants. Instead of being too adult at a young age and giving in, be adult enough to refuse. A few years down the road when both of you have broken up, you'll be glad you didn't do that. And you're supposed to save that for your special someone in life, not just some boyfriend.

Answer 3

Ok. You are 13, you shouldn't even think about it. Do you want a baby? Ask him, does he want a baby? You have your entire life ahead of you, you don't want to ruin it by having a kid.
I know it would be hard to leave someone you love, but if he doesn't respect you for you and because you are a good person, leave him. If he only wants to have sex with you, and you don't want to, he's not worth your time.
Find someone who repects your chaste lifestyle. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have sex. I told my boyfriend went we started going out that I wasn't having sex until I was married. He respected that and told me he was doing the same. Don't let this guy pressure you into having sex.
So many bad things could come from it. A baby, STD's. Both of those could ruin your life at such a young age.

Answer 4

My God, what has this world come to!?!? OK, you are 13 YEARS OLD! That should NOT even be on your mind because once you do it, it will become easier for you to find yourself in the SAME situation with the next guy and then the NEXT guy! You are a CHILD! You are way too YOUNG to even begin of thinking such an adult step. Do you want to be PREGNANT and have your whole life CHANGED? I dont think so. If this young boy who's also a child is just looking for that, you shouldnt be with him. Neither of you are ready for the responsibilty of taking care of a baby. Also, do you really want to do this? Youre so young right now, I don't think you'd want your classmates to find out that you've been sleeping around. They'll think you are easy and youll have to deal with that everyday at school (people knowing your business and judging you). Don't do it hun, this is a special thing and should be shared one day in the future with a special person.

Answer 5

tell him your not ready and if he doesn't love and resect you enough to not push you into it then find a new bf..don't do something your gonna regret later and that is something you will MAJORLY! wait till your ready...and think about it this way and maybe ask him what is he gonna do if you do get pregnant? im guessin he is under 16 so he isn't gonna support a baby or even help hes to young(and stupid) ..tell him maybe he should go back to his ex if all he wants is sex!!!

Answer 6

Leave him. He obvioulsy doesn't respect your wishes or you in general. Why do you want to be with a boy who wants you to be like the other girls he's no longer with? Why do you want to be with a boy who doesn't respect you or show you honor by bothering you about having sex?

Dump the loser. You have nothing to prove to him. If he really loved you, he'd wait.

Answer 7

DONT have sex, it will RUIN your life, take it from a person who cares, you are going to get into huge trouble if you do have sex. DONT do somthing you dont wanna do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Also, the boy will be so proud of himself for doing it, that he will tell all his friends, who will then spread it to the girls, who will then talk about it at a party, who then will have a chaperone hear, who then will tell your parents!


Hope this helps, please email me if you want any more advice, and add me to your contacts (calaxgoalie).

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-Calax

Answer 8

You need to leave him.. I know you don't want to and I know it's hard. But trust me, you need to get away from a guy who keeps pestering you for sex. You've already told him you're not going to and he keeps insisting that you do. That's not good. It could turn out in very bad ways, like if he forces himself on you. Trust me, it's not worth is; he's not worth it. You should be proud of yourself for sticking with it though. But get away from him! Please, for your sake. Find a guy who will treat you with respect, and not like a piece of meat. I hope you take my advise and I hope everything works out for you!

Answer 9

This is why you don't date until you are sixteen. It helps keep you from having to make this choice. As for your problem, don't do it until there's a diamond on your left hand and a veil over your head. He isn't worth it no matter how much he means to you.

Answer 10

your way too young to have sex, Are you ready to be a mom, what if you get pregnant. you need to think real hard and realize this isnt someone you should be with, if he really liked you, he would respect your decission not to have sex and wouldnt pressure you, WAIT!