Why am I so mad all the time?

Question

I am a 13 year old girl and I always get so frusterated and agry at nothing. My Nana (who is very strict and controlling) will walk into the livingroom while I'm sitting on the couch using my mums laptop and she will say "I'm going to go pick up grampa and then im going with Mary-ellen to workout and then I'll be home and we can have lunch" or something like that and I'll be so mad i want to punch her. I get so frusterated and angry at stupid things and i feel like I'm in darkness, i mostly get really mad when I'm talking to my Nana. I also get very sad and i used to cut but that isn't really my problem. If i am doing something like if im on the computer or playing videogames (mostly computer) and someone bugs me or tells me to do something i get so mad and i was wondering why am i getting so angry, especially at my Nana?

Answer 1

Your emotions are expressing themselves through anger. You have feelings in your head that you don't know how to deal with.

Answer 2

You are probably angry because she makes plans without including your input. Maybe you want to spend time with her or you want to decide when to eat. If so, the next time you have an angry reflex, make a compromise that would be suitable to you. You might say something like, "Can I go to the gym with you?" or "How about we have lunch at 12:30 today?" If she wants you to do a chore that you don't like, say something like, "I don't want to clean the toilets, but can I vaccuum instead?" That way, things still get done around the house, but you won't feel resentful about having to do chores you hate.

As a teenager, you are getting to the point where you want to make decisions, too, but you aren't getting the opportunity. Also, your anger when being interrupted on the computer suggests that video game are your escape from your frustrations. You need to discuss your problems before this form of escape no longer works for you. Tell your Nana that you love her (I can tell that you do) and you know she wants the best for you, but you'd like some input in your schedule, too.

If the anger doesn't abate, you might want to try seeking other outlets as you work things out with your Nana. Go out for a walk or write down your feelings in a journal. Do this until you have cooled down. More than likely, if you make these changes in your life, the anger is a phase and will go away in time.

Answer 3

You are mostly mad an your Nana because she is strict and controlling. No one likes to be "controlled", not even children younger than you. You are 13 an adolescent. You are entering young adult hood and should be treated as a young adult, not a young child. I assume your Nana is your grandma, not a working Nana. If I am right, and she is grandma, she does not see you as a young maturing child entering adult hood. She still sees you as her sweet little baby. The frustrating part, she treats you like a young child but you are suppose to be old enough to accept the fact that she's out picking up grandpa and doing her own fun thing, leaving you on your own. Then, turns around and treats you like a child again. Or maybe you feel left out. How about asking her if you can go with her to pick up grandpa? Then you can hang with grandpa while she is doing her fun thing with Mary-Ellen. As for cutting yourself. You need to tell your parents or guardian about this and get some help with your emotional problems. You are taking your anger out on yourself. You are holding our anger inside and need some release in a healthy safe manner.

Answer 4

Get out of the House and get involved in Church Activities and in extra curricular sports in school like track, or softball.
You are just bored! You are probably just really smart and you are self com-busting in the boredom. Bored kids start taking drugs which end up ruining their lives and rotting their teeth. Strive to be the smartest in the family , read books, go swimming until you are exhausted, and sleep, and grow and find a cure for cancer one day. Take all that energy and circumvent it to make a difference in the world! You already have the potential. I fully agree that an empty mind is the devil's playground. Use all that passion in you and go out and make the world a better place and if you put God first in your life you will be blessed financially as well. I promise this.

Answer 5

Most people would say it's a chemical imbalence...

but I'll tell you something that most people won't breach the subject of...

You're a brat and spoiled

You act like the gifts given for your use like a computer, internet service, video games, and the TV are you God given right.

They are a priviledge given to you out of love. A love you need to start earning by showing respect to these same people that provided all this to you.

The real solution is this...

Pray.

God will help you to unwind yourself from addictions that are the source of your anger.

I'm being very serious. It will help. Try it, and don't give up easily right away. All things worth having take a little time.

Two weeks will have you helping your family instead of yelling at them. Promise :)

Answer 6

13 years old is a very difficult age. Your Nana sounds like she is there for you and trying to do her best and my instinct is that this anger has more to do with your age and your circumstance in general. Is your mum or dad available for you ? You probably should speak with a Counsellor about your deeper feelings and in doing this you will find that your anger will go away some what. It would seem quite understandable even given this short question you have on Yahoo. Good luck to you - I hope you find real happiness.

Answer 7

I'm Exaclty The Same.
I Get So Annoyed Now! Hopefully I Can Learn Something From This!
I Did Have Conselling Because I Was Sucidal But It Doesn't Really Help.

Answer 8

It's your hormones kicking in! Perfectly normal for a girl your age! Plus the fact that your Nana is strict. If you are already having your periods, try Pamprin, it will ease the symptoms. I thought I would go crazy for the same reason when I started menopause!! I just couldn't handle any frustration, that's the one thing that still gets to me faster than anything! Hang on it will get better as you get older!

Answer 9

I think it probably is a combination of 2 things. I agree with the other post about it being hormones, they can really kick your butt.

The other thing is that you need is to get God in your life. I was walking around miserable and mad all the time. What a change when I got God back in my life. When I mean "in my life", I don't just mean going to church... I mean praying for His guidance and help so I don't ruin my life being a grump all the time.

Life has a way of passing you by, you only have one chance to enjoy it everyday so grab that chance. The more you love and give to others the happier person you will be. Just try it for a day... give to others and love them and see how it makes you feel. You have nothing to lose and much to gain.

Answer 10

Why don't you say to your Nana before she wants to go out "Can we PLEASE go somewhere I'd like to go OR do something I'd like to do today?" Just act nice when you say it, try not to show your angry.Then maybe she will give in and say"Where do you want to go?" or " What would you like to do?".
The reason you get upset with Nana when your on the computer or video games she wants you to stop what you are doing so you'll have to go out with her and you just want to be on your computer or video games and relax.
Good luck dear, is there anyone you can talk to like your Mum and tell her how you feel?

Answer 11

It could be hormones or it could be a personality trait. My daughter was having a similar problem and her doctor diagnosed it as a form of anxiety. Talk to your Mom (or guardian). A chat with your doctor may help guide you to feel better. I hope you bite your tongue and don't take this out on your Nana. Good luck and God bless.