Women over 25: would you date a man who still lived at home with mummy?

Question

i wouldnt personally but just wondered what you girls think?
i'd be thinking well 'whys he still there/or why did he go back home? mmmmm tooo much baggage perhaps

Answer 1

I wouldn't because he may be looking for a girl to replace his mother.
And I'm not up for that!
Plus I want a man to be independent and know who he is. He cant really know himself until he's struck out on his own and joined the real world

Answer 2

This is a fashionable question. i belong to an age when it was expected that you would live with your parents until you married. If the house was too small you went to sea, joined the forces or went to live with Granny

My own son came back after University for about two or three years and then left home to take a job about 200 miles away.
it is not always a case of something wrong with him it is often circumstances or jobs in your 20's as you try to find your career

I know this is addressed to women but I think a man's point of view will do no harm, although I do not expect agreement

Answer 3

You know I asked a question like this and i didn't get any answers so I deleted it. BUT my little bro is hooking me up with his co-worker/mentor at work. He's 35 and still lives at home with his mom. I thought it was a little teeny because he is 35 and still lives at home. He has no baggage and was there so I was weary about it. I got to know who he was and it was awesome. He's really nice and sweet and caring and the reason that he was living at home was that he had to move back because his father died. He moved back so that he could help his mom out and so she wouldn't have to be alone. I asked if he was going to move out when she was back on her feet and he said no because his mom would be too lonely and he didn't want to put her in a home because she was still too young for that. So he is going to stay with her and take care of her. So I would say yes I would because I am talking to one right now. You can't always judge a book by its cover before you read it. You never know how it will end before you even begin it!

Answer 4

I'm 29 and still live with my parents, my fiance is 23 and up until June this year, lived with his parents. He now lives with mine as he got a new job and needed to be closer to it. We get married in 3 weeks and then will be moving into our own house.

I don't personally see anything wrong with living with your parents past the age of 25. If you get on great with them, then for a small fee of board, a willingness to help some (and depending on the family!) you get all your washing/ironing/cooking/cleaning done for you!

By staying at home and avoiding the high cost of living, there is the obvious benefit of excess money from your wage to have an abundance of savings, travel lots, afford new cars, take up lots of hobbies etc......ooh, and be able to afford the sort of house we now have as a first time buyer. Without our savings, we would have ended up in a grot-hole like most people with their first mortgage.

There are the obvious cases of "mummy's boys" which I agree are a little creepy, BUT like another person on here said, it's best to find out why they are living at home as most of the time it's probably to save money!

Answer 5

Such a story is so unusual that it's a little hard to believe. I would need to hear the same story from her guy, before I would consider dating her. Because even officially married people can sometimes lie about their relationship in order to cheat. When the story is hard to believe, then you need to check it out. Or else you expose yourself to possible accusations of being a home-wrecker and a cheater. That's the kind of accusations women often face, when they believe some incredible story from a married guy and sleep with him.

Answer 6

I'm 23 and my bf is 26, he still lives at home.

I would have to find out why he's living at home first but house prices are quite high at the moment so maybe he can't afford it on his own and doesn't want to waste his money on rent! Everyones circumstances are different so I would like to think I wouldn't judge someone until I have the facts.

Answer 7

Yes, its 2 bloody expensive to buy a house now in the UK , so lots of 20 somethings are still at home with the parents, boys and girls, its not everyone that has good wages and can afford to move out

Answer 8

Im 25. I live with my 'mummy!!'

Im a women.. And just cant afford to buy my own place, I don't want to live alone, my mum enjoys the company... I don't think it's fair to bunch people into the same stereotype of being there because we're afraid not to be... Which it sounds like you're implying..

I dont want to be there, but Im not ashamed to be!!

Luckily my boyfriend judged me on my personality and not my financial status.

Answer 9

im 22 but my bf is still currently living with his parents he is 26! In the uk renting and buying houses is so expensive! I only live alone cause i rent a house from my grandmother! she invested in property and i live in one of her houses!

I dont think it matters where people are living. by him living at home it has enable him to invest in a career he really enjoys and had he moved out of home he wouldnt have been able to do that!

He is moving in with me in the next month or so anyway!

surely it should be about who the people are not where they live?!

Answer 10

depends if he's like an ex boyf of mine who moved back home cos hes incapable of doing anything for himself and is complete mummys boy then no! if on the other hand he is capable but money's tight and he has to then no! always watch the mummy's.....if they are running around after the bloke...run away very fast the bloke will expect the same