this girl i was seein just said she doesnt want a relationship, she has been hurt before and isnt ready ect. i said that im different but she heard that before too. i then said all she would need is a bit of trust to find out and she said she isnt ready. i left it with 'you know where i am', what do you think will happen if anything? i always was nice to her and wont call her again unless she calls first?
2007-08-02 04:17:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you are just going to have to wait.. She's not ready the more you push her the more she will say no.
2007-08-02 05:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... I say, send her some flowers..Show her you mean business..
Its a bit of a cop-out tho...We've all been hurt, we all have trust issue's...Thats the whole deal with love..You take the risk...I got dumped after 5 years...Yeah, I was scared when I fell for someone again it would happen..But it didnt stop me trying and now im very very happy...
Whats the point in holding back? You'll win nothing, she'll just carry on in her safe world of trusting no one...Make her give you a chance...If she resists..Sorry, but she's not the one... Sorry if that seems a little uncaring..But people do hide behind words sometimes... It sounds to me she must like you, else where would the 'being hurt' worry even come from.. either that or she was letting you down gently.. You sound like a nice guy...Dont let it get you down..Theres a lot of women out there!!
2007-08-02 04:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by KB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. It feels depends on how badly she was treated before. She may start to miss you now and realise that are might be different after all, or she may really not be ready and just leave it and not contact you.
Its a hard one to judge, as I don't know the both of you, but just give her a bit of space and see what happens.
If you haven't heard from her in over a week, I would send her a text to ask how she is, nothing else, and see what she replies.
best of luck - I hope she comes to her senses and phones you quick!
2007-08-02 04:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by Jo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't MAKE someone ready for a r'ship. She was actually being very mature by telling you this and letting you go. Would you rather she continue dating you but always holding you at arm's length because she's not ready? It's better for her and you that she take some time to heal from her past hurts so she can move on. I wouldn't worry. I would go a week then send her a casual email just saying "how are you?" However she responds will tell you what next steps to take.
2007-08-02 04:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As said as yet sounds, let her be, and give it time. If she doesn't phone you and in a month u still wants her send a nice txt or e-mail, nothing too romantic. Just something like: Just to know how r u... Being thinking of u and still would like that chance, if u ready!
Good Luck!!!
2007-08-02 04:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by ADDA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u made the right move i think....let her do what she has to do and if she wants u when she's ready she'll let u know....but she also did the right thing b/c if she stays with u and isn't ready this relationship will not work....just go with the flow but im not saying u have 2 wait for her but i bealive this was the best way this could have turned out
GOOD LUCK
PEACE
2007-08-02 04:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Nanonan m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of up in the air. She could call but it'll be a while if she needs time or maybe not. I wasn't ready to be in a relationship after dating this jerk. A friend of mine liked me and I knew it but I wasn't ready. Then one night we went out after work and out of the blue he kissed me. It took me by surprise and opened my eyes to whats in front of me. We're been together ever since.
2007-08-02 04:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're putting the pressure on by saying "i'm different", etc. so my best advice would be to back off and try to make friends with her and show her that she can trust your first, that way she'll see you're not like the others and hopefully things will blossom.
2007-08-02 04:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the problem is her and not you. There's nothing you can do really, I mean I think you've tried your best. Don't try pushing her anymore either, because then she will freak out! Just leave her be and let her come to you. If its meant to be, it will happen! So live your life, don't be sitting around waiting for her!
2007-08-02 04:22:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't look like much happening there!
Looks like this girl lacks stability big time in her life and wont let her guard down unless she's sure or rather reassured of any commitment.
good luck anyway.
2007-08-02 04:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by mamaroach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋