My parents have been divorced for a long time. My mother is a drug addict with custody of my little sister. At the age of 14 she kicked me out because her boyfriend was abusing me and she didn't believe it. Now 4 years later my mother has brainwashed my whole family into thinking I am the worst person on earth. No one on her side of the family will talk to me. I have lost good relationships with my brother and sister which we used to be very close. What do I do? My mom calls me all the time just to yell at me for no reason. What happens when I get married and have kids? Do I invite the family or not? I mean they didn't show up for my graduation party. Do I tell my kids that they don't have a grandmother or any other family on that side or what? This is a big issue that has been bothering me for a while. The relationship with my mother is gone there is definently no fixing it , it's that broken.
2007-08-02 04:13:32 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OK - you're 18 - right? You can't change your mom and you can't change your moms family. Do not invite them over - do not answer your mom's calls.
When it comes to have kids, keep it simple and just mention that your mom's family has a lot of serious issues and fights a lot and you don't want your child around that.
2007-08-02 04:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Queen 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have had a similar problem with my dad. He was always soo mean to me. He always called me names and yelled at me for no apparent reason. You wouldnt believe the names he has called me. My mom and I have nothing to do with him b/c hes soo mean. He has turned his side of the family against me also. Its a tough situation to be put in and im sorry its happening to you. You Do need to have something to do with your other members of your family and just sit them down and talk to them but never give up on having a relationship with your siblings. You will feel alone if you do. Dont let that bond break and dont let your mom get to you. maybe she has the same issues as my dad has. good luck.
2007-08-02 08:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as both parties are living there is always hope for a relationship to get better!
Don't give up BUT don't give in either. Be patient and open for your mothers change of heart, Of course it might not happen but be emotionally prepared if it does!
Good Luck, and when family extends a hand to attempt to repair a relationship DON'T bite it off!
2007-08-02 04:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how she could have kicked you out at age 14 however I suggest you block her number and never pick up her calls.
Send your brother's and sister's birthday/holiday cards with invitations to get together and your contact information.
Who cares about your mom's dysfunctional family.. leave them in the dirt.
When dating/married/with children simply explain your mother is mentally sick and you do not have contact with her.
2007-08-02 04:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your hurting inside, but cutting the ties with your mother might not solve anything either. Don't tell your kids they don't have any grandparents on her side because their bond to find out. Try to forget about the bad times and move on. Even though family is important, if you can't retie the knot in the rope, then I guess its not worth it.
2007-08-02 04:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I do not think there is an answer to this question, families like yours air your dirty laundry in public, families like mine hide everything under the carpet. Things like this happen all of the time and nothing is ever said or done in my family. We just keep our noses clean and do not involve outside agencies.
2007-08-02 04:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, for me, I'd just tell them that their grandmother is dead.
And that the other side of the family is dead too.
Has anything EVER been done for the abuse you received though?
2007-08-02 04:17:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont invite them to your wedding if you get married.try writing a letter to your brother /sister and give your side of the story as i feel they have only listened to one-side.
2007-08-02 07:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by steven e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we've some undesirable apples....each and every kin does. yet, interior of each and every apple are countless seeds, many good regardless of the badness of the apple. good seeds that deliver approximately healthful timber.
2016-11-11 00:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling immediately.
2007-08-02 04:16:13 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋